Just had some thoughts on conversational techniques. I'm trying to build them up so if anyone has any tips to add that would be awesome!

This is a little realization I had last night.

The trick is not to agree and not to steer away from the flow of conversation but just go with it. So if someone says "I like the colour blue". You say "Oh, thats an awesome colour, what makes you like blue, do you like water, are you pisces?". These are kind of silly questions, but also fun and they let you know something about the person and keeps the conversation going, you are not cutting off, but flowing with it where ever it goes. This opposed to for instance saying "oh really, ya I like green". This is a cut in the conversation, you are steering away and cutting it off, now the person has to support you. Also you don't want to agree and say something like, "Oh, you like blue, me too". This is agreeing and acting like a wuss, it as well doesn't go anywhere, its a conversational dead end. Either way you're basically cutting off the conversation and forcing a restart each time you do this. The key is to sort of use what a person tells you, to find something out about them and keep it going. Its much easier to keep it fun and interesting that way.

Of course I'm speaking generally, if you really do find something you agree on, thats good, but don't say "ya me too!", get into it, ask questions, "well what aspects of such and such do you like", or "I've noticed that people that like blue are also like this". You are still flowing with the conversation, and using those similarities to build it up even more. You don't have to stop and say "me too!", as if its a big deal, if you have a commonality, which is what you're looking for go with it, get into the details, find out what she knows about it. Bring in interesting insights and show you also know a lot about the subject that way, rather then just simply agreeing or trying to show you are the same as her.

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