So i have a big issue, I'm really bad at kino'ing - being more 'touchy' with women. My whole life I can't remember me ever being 'touchy' , I never kino when I talk with someone, I mostly just keep my hands to myself. This issue really struck me last night when I saw some guy hit on a girl I like and started caressing her hair and shit - she was reactionless but it just really stayed on my mind..

It's not that I don't want to be more 'touchy' or more open when it comes to physical aspects, the problem is that I don't feel right or comfortable doing it. I want it to become a habit for me to do it, not something that I'm afraid to do. This is probably one of the main things I struggle on- I need to work on this really bad. I think I've become 'friend-zoned' too much because I don't build enough sexual escalation- i just get on "good terms" with everyone. I want this to change.

Does anyone have any good tips that will help me become better at kino'ing and help me become more natural at it? What is the best way to kino and get the girl to kino you back etc.etc. I need a lot of advice in this area!

thanks!

Oh boy. I remember this. The fear that something bad will happen when you touch her hand. You don't know what's gonna happen if you touch her shoulder.
Think about the worst thing that could happen. She's not gonna melt you with lasor vision (At least I hope not!). The worst she could do is slap you and maybe walk away, and even that isn't as bad as regret for not doing anything.

Now, I'm not gonna try to pump you up and get you into the right mindset for touching because your will is the only thing that will get you there. I'm going to give you exercises to complete that will help you with this; whether you actually do them will be up to you.

Ok, first of all, if you care about what people think a lot, then go to a neighboring town or something. Somewhere where you will never run into anyone you saw again. Now, spot a hot girl. This will ONLY work on a hot girl. Touching an unattractive girl is easy. Touching a hot girl is on a whole different level. Ok, so you've picked your hot girl. Now open and get the flirting on. Once your say... maybe 30 seconds into the conversation, start OVER"KINO"ING. I hate that word, but it's best for this particular sentence. Over touch her. I'm not saying grab her boobs or ass or some preverted shit like that.
I'm saying, grab her hand. keep it untill she pulls it away.
Maybe stroke her hair out of her face even when it's not in her face.
You could even lead her when you're walking. Put the your hand on the small of her back and the other infront and holding her hand as you lead.
Whatever you do, just make sure you're HAVING FUN and over"kino"ing.
The purpose of this exercise is NOT to attract the girl. It's to build your comfort in the particular area. That's it. Most girls will probably think you're weird for doing this, but as I said before, If you care about what other people think, then just go someplace farther away.

That's it. I wish someone had told me something like this when I started out. It would've saved me a shitload of time.

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thanks a lot man! appreciate it.

so you think if I kino more it'd help prevent the "friend-zone" thing?

and also where do you think I should look into for building attraction?

thanks!

Kinda have the same problem, but I'll try what thinman said.

Funny thing is I'm not shy to tough the girl, it's just that I never know when to start kinoing or find a good excuse to break the touch barier. Always thought it looked kinda creepy to grab a girl's hand for looking at it or other excuses.

My 2 pre-prepared methods of getting initial contact in are:

1) Zebra: "Hi, I'm Rob"
*hand out to shake hands*
HB: "I'm Lucy"
*while still holding hand*
Zebra: "Hold on, what's Lucy short for?"
HB:"Lucinda"
Zebra: "ooo, isn't that like a female version of Lucifer?"
etc.
Keep the conversation flowing and you can keep hold of the hand. Make sure that the girl can let go if she wants to, but I've not yet had a girl let go early.

2) *Some mind reading trick*
Zeb: "Now, to read your mind I want you to imagine a blackboard in your mind. Draw the [psychic thing] on the blackboard, really concentrate on it. I need your hands too"
*hold her hands*
While you keep telling her to focus on the blackboard, you can get all sorts of hand stroking in. If she's focussing on the [psychic thing], she will not be worried about the fact that your hands are getting it on!
(PS. you can also get into her personal space in sorts of other ways here too and gaze deep into her eyes)