A chick I actually get along with walked up to me and started talking to me tonight.

We had genuine conversation for ONE HOUR OR MORE! I isolated her with ease. We went outside, I gave her my coat. We sat there forever and just yapped.

It was AWESOME!

She wasn't even that good looking (about a 6) but I was totally into her, we clicked, ya know?

I even number swapped with her.

It would have been in the bag...

except she was there with a dude... FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK!

Now I read something about a boyfriend killer routine... can anyone link me more information on that?

I could like text her... but I'm not sure how I'd break through the boyfriend.

I'm already on good terms with the boyfriend (introduced myself tonight and played it super cool), I think I impressed her with all kinds of social status (until a fight broke out between the two main city groups, leaving me in the middle like wtf). She was totally into me, I was totally into her...

what should I text her?

"So, how serious are you and (boyfriend's first name)"

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

UPDATE:

Texted her the day after this post and chatted her a bit.

Didn't ask how serious they were (though I would have if I had gotten to that reply sooner), but did ascertain that they had been together two years.

Two years is a long time, they could be totally serious, or she could be getting sick of him (I'm betting on that based on the way she was acting towards me).

What I'm not sure about is would she have even given me her number if she was only interested in being friends? That seems plausible, because we had a killer conversation that night...

But during her text she was sure to point out that she was going out with her boyfriend that night... idk... but I do know one thing... why am I even worrying about this? She's just a chick. There's a million others just like her! NEXT!

Is there a b/f killer routine that ISN'T forbidden (haven't studied any hypnosis quite yet anyway, and I sure don't want chicks killing themselves...)?

I don't want to pester the chick everyday, especially if she spends alotta time with her boyfriend, but I do want to keep in touch. Not sure how often to do so... (oh, wait a sec! she should be texting me right? that means I've either done something wrong or she really is into her b/f... right?)

I think she let you know cause she wants you to pick up on this secret chick message "DONT TEXT ME IN FRONT OF MY BF TOMORROW"

You can open up a nice conspiracy plot here if you play your cards right.

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agreed. I actually did pick up on that... and I didn't text her that night (which was the same night, last night, that she sent that secret code).

I'm just not sure how often to text her or how to time it so she's not around her boyfriend.

But now that I think about it I should wait until weekdays, during the day to text her since that's likely when b/f works.

Was thinking about texting her right now but not sure if I should (having just texted her yesterday, and the possibility she may be with her b/f since it's a Sunday).

What do you think crowd?

I think you need to protect you self.
That is,..when you sarge a girl. Don't let you heart get involved.
If your not careful you will be the cause of your own undoing.
You may already be in the early stages of one-itis.
Do you self a big favor. Delete that girls number from your phone and your mind.
I think there is a >90% probability that you were the one getting sarged.

ouch...

now that I think about it you're right...

that happened way too easily... I probably was the one getting sarged. damn. here I was kinda thinking I was the man too...

as for one-itis, yea, I'm always in the early stages of that when I make progress with a chick I'm sincerely interested in. That's something I'm working hard on.

I wear my heart on my sleeve and kind of hate myself for it. However, if I delete her number, then she texts me, I'll have an awkward "Sorry who was this again?" moment (I've tried this strategy before).

Here is the general rule of thumb when it comes to women with boyfriends.

If you meet a girl at a bar or what have you and chat with her and she never once mentions her boyfriend, then generally that means the relationship is on the rocks. In other words, she is looking to move on.

If you start talking with her and she mentions her boyfriend, that is her way of signaling nicely that she is taken.

If you talk with a woman for a length of time and after a while she not only mentions her boyfriend but may ask you for some advice or criticizes her boyfriend. That basically means she has put you in the friend's zone.

In your situation, you talked at length with this girl and she never once mentioned her boyfriend but her boyfriend was there all along. Back when I was young, we would say you were, "prepping her for her boyfriend."

Can anyone tell me if that expression is still used?

I hope I am wrong about this because this is far worse then the friend's zone or kindly indicating she is taken. Basically both the boyfriend and her are exploiting you.

The boyfriend just wants to bang her, but really does not want to deal with her at any other level. At the same time, the girl likes banging her boyfriend but wants some kind of emotional connection. So basically, the girl is using you for the emotional part and wants to continue banging her boyfriend. At the same time, the boyfriend is using you because you keep her out of his way until he wants to bang her and also you do all the emotional stuff he doesn't want to do.

Most of the time, there is not some kind of explicit agreement or conspiracy to do this; it just gradually happens.

I mean I hope this is not the case, but if what I write sounds even remotely accurate just move on to the next girl.

I don't want to sound like I am above this; when I was really young, I would go out with a girl I knew, take her to dinner and drinks--hoping she would go home with me--but then she would go to her boyfriends afterwards. I did this a couple of times before my brother intervened and said, "Dude, you are just prepping her for her boyfriend. F' her, move on." That is when I learned about prepping.

When I got older and my friends started getting married, there was a hell of a lot of them who would have their wives prepped while they hung out with us guys. So I've seen both ends of this.

I agree 100% with NashLife.

Wow.

I was completely oblivious to this phenomenon. I feel stupid as fuck now, because this is probably the case.

The situation looks bleek now that you describe it that way.
I got kind of excited when I read that...

Then I kept reading, lol. I still can't help but wonder if I could've made something out of this (even though I know now to move on).

Although, now that I know I'm fucked anyway, I may just text her now to dig for more information for you guys because I'm curious...

This also explains why b/f didn't give a fuck...

In the future how can I know if this is what's happening? Is it okay to be like "Do you have a boyfriend?" the second I feel like I'm getting invested in a conversation?

perhaps.. however SeekingSatisfaction;..be safe, don't put your self in a situation where the guy and 5 of his friends kick your ass for hitting on his girl.

Remember,...she was only a 6.

Now dust your self off and number close a 10!!

good call scientific.

number deleted.

even though I don't think I'd have minded fighting this guy, not being emotionally invested in a girl with those kind of brains...

In fact, now I kind of despise both of those people, the dude for the reason above, and the chick for staying with somebody she's not really into, and using me for an emotional substitute...

Wow I suck at this...

What's worse? I can't go number close a ten right this very moment because I'm stuck in a small, dead, village, for the time being (see my other posts).

And guys,

thanks again.

this post has been therapeutic for me, literally. I learned about a nuance of socialization I wasn't previously aware.

I'd have been driving myself nuts trying to figure out what I did wrong if I didn't have you guys to share this with! Turns out I did nothing wrong (except be naive)!

Now I know what to look for next time a nice chick starts talking to me and something seems off...

wow, this whole prepping phenomenon is insane. sounds like mental foreplay. yikes.

chick with bf meets you, gets worked up about you (kind of like a fantasy), then goes home and gets pounded by bf.

ewww, fuck that shit.

lol, well that's sort of the way to think of it. My favorite example portraying what the actual motive in these cases is the case of one of my really good friends. He took this "S" to the extreme.

Some context on my friend. He comes across to woman as the general nice guy and understanding guy, but really he is major a-hole with women, I mean major. He knows he's alpha and deserves the best and gets the best and will not tolerate anything. We have some hilarious stories together. In fact, he is the only one of the few of my friends who isn't married.

Gosh, how long has been now. I would say five years ago he was sleeping with this really hot chick. The funny part is this hot chick had what my friend called, "a pet." The guy was really short, lanky a total pussy. At first my friend thought he was the typical gay friend chicks have. However, he soon realized he was just some guy who was in love with this chick and who this chick kept around.

Not only that, the guy was freakin' annoying as all hell.

My friend was sleeping with this girl for a little over a month, when she started with the ultimatums. The major ultimatum being, if you do not hang out with me I'm going to hang out with my pet. My friend said that was good for her and he was going to hang out with us.

My friend would still hang out with us and pick up other chicks. I asked him on one occasion how was able to swing sleeping with the girl--she believed they were in a relationship--while still hanging out with us and sometimes picking up other chicks. His response was something to the effect of, "Well, she goes out with her pet on the nights we hang out and if I don't pick a girl up I call her over to sleep with her."

Here is where my friend took this "S" to the extreme. I find it comical, some my find it sad. My friend owned a two bed condo. His roommate moved out to live with his girlfriend. So, he was looking for a roommate. The girl he was sleeping with wanted to move in with him, but hell no would my friend let some chick move in with him.

My friend, acted like he was befriending the, "pet," and gets him to move in to the empty room and pay a big chunk of rent. So, basically this dude is prepping the girl daily while my friend goes about his life and bangs her in the room next to the, "pet." I mean, he makes no investment at all in this girl. The pet is doing all the work, while he just bangs her.

This goes on for about six months. At that time,I told my friend he was playing with fire. This pussy was going to go unstable and blow his brains out. My friend's response was, nah this only temporary. Sick of her, he kicks out the pet and tells the girl he is moving on.

At that time, as you can imagine it the real estate market was hot. My friend was throughout that period in the process of flipping the condo. He did, moved to an apartment far away from the condo and never dealt with the girl or her pet again.

This is an extreme case. However, it captures the full extent of the motive behind prepping. The girl gets the companionship she needs, and the guy just bangs her when he wants. The girl goes out on dates and has the feeling of a relationship, and the guy just bangs her.

That is why, when I first replied I indicated that both the girl and guy are potentially exploiting the OP. That's basically what it is. Both of them are just using this dude.