I can't post in relationships section yet, but anyways, I've been going out with a girl for a few months and the past two nights we had sex she asked me if i was in love with her. I'm not but I feel like either answer will put me in a bad position. First time I said I didn't feel comfortable answering that question, second time I just smiled, said no, and kissed her. and then later that night she asked again and I just ignored her. Any ideas boys?

Tell her the truth....Me, I would say, "I like you a lot, but love is something I think takes a bit to establish." If she bolts because you didn't lie to her and expects you to be in love, then I would let her run away as fast as she wants....if not, the rest of your life will be set by her frame and she will be dramatic as hell. She would be using sex to MAKE you do something she wants...don't let her control that frame


AGAIN, as I have said in other threads, I think being up front BEFORE having sex avoids all of this bullshit. It let's her know what you want and what you are looking for, so there is no explaining later...

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Yeah I just want to condition these stupid questions out of her. Anyone else have any ideas?

Have this really sarcastic and smirky face and say yes. Or say something like "I do love you, you are OK".

This isn't field tested however.

Basically I do the same thing Captain Morgan does. I tell her the truth, I don't under any circumstances lie to her.

The 'L' word for me is a big one and I don't tell a girl I love her until I actually mean it. If she brings it up then I tell her, "I like you, but it takes me quite some time to actually love someone. I'm not there with you yet. But I really enjoy spending time with you." That may seem sugarcoated to some of you, but oh well

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