So I first messaged this girl I saw on a dating site because she seemed cool and was talking about how much she likes video games, she mentioned Ocarina of Time which many of you know was great so I opened with that. Now she doesn't seem to be blowing me off but keeps saying she's busy and doesn't tell me when she's free. What should I do just give up?

Me: Zelda: Ocarina of time was definitely the best game ever. 10 bonus points for liking it. 20 if you can still whistle epona's song. Can you?

HB: I cannot whistle, but I used to be able to play some parts on my old ocarina, (yes I bought one a along time ago, lol)

Yes, best game ever. One of my favorite game soundtracks along with Final Fantasy 7.

Can you? You would totally be badass if you could

Me: Not only that but I can play it on the guitar. I was going to replay it this weekend why don't you play with me?


HB: Wow! you're pretty awesome ....very impressed.

Sorry, co-managing an arts conference this friday and have lots of follow up work to do. And my ren faire guild is throwing a fundraiser party.

Me: Sounds like a busy weekend. What's a ren faire guild? Is it like a player's club?


HB: Like an organization that participates in renaissance faires. Fun stuff. You have to be initiated in.

Any cool plans this weekend?

Me: Nothing as cool as a ren faire guild fundraiser what goes on at those things?


HB: a lot of sexiness and debauchery, lol

Me: That's what I thought...

Well, next week I am going to walk/hike the (local beach trail) on wednesday, do you want to come with me?

HB: Sorry, have other plans....another time though

*end of conversation*

Ok what do you guys think of this? Should I just stop asking her? I was thinking of telling her to give me her # and we could talk on the phone but I'm not very experienced do you think thats a good idea? And yes I know ren faire girls are dorks but she's not bad looking.

She just told you no that's all. Take it for what it is.

Leave her alone for a couple of days and try one more time, after that forget it.

Too much ass kissing not enough qualifying. Not enough funny or cocky. Waaay too early to be asking to meet up with this kind of communication. Not enough rapport built yet.

Your unlikely to get a phone number or email address or even facebook at this point so work on that after 2 days. THEN ask to meet up.

There are certain steps that you need to go through and you have jumped ahead too many.

Sometimes, lack of interest is lack of interest. Nothing else.

You implied a lot of ways for you both to hang out together, she never took the bait.

Take my word. Cut losses. Find someone else.

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. Lack of interest does not mean she is negative towards you. It means she is neutral. If she is negative that is when you should cut loses.

The good news is she is neutral. The bad news is you have to work harder to get her into the positive.

Never cut loses if you are in the neutral because it is all practice. But never harass a chick who clearly isn't into you.

I quit online game for a while so I could work on real life approaches. During that time, an interesting thing happened - I realized one of the 'techniques' I used online that usually doesn't work - sharing common interests. She knows that if she's hot, and she likes videogames, that's kind of a novelty because it's a stereotypical guy thing. It is bait in my opinion. I fell for this kind of shit a million times. Because it's logical.

Takeaways are quit trying to build rapport based on shared interests. That's for later - at least in my experience. I agree with Brian and Mytt - just get at her in a few days one more time. If she says no, then you're done.

Just ask if there is another time that would be better for her, what day would she be able to meet you, and if she says she does not know, say, thank you, have a nice life! and forget about her. women online get bombarded with messages and they are not interested in guys online anyway for some reason. get out there and find some hobby in real life and give women some compiments and ask them open ended questions and dress up. you will find some dates very soon!

I was just say : oke, halla at ya later. If you have a nice life, it comes off as if she hurt you

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