Hey people

So got rejected from a co worker the other day and it happens etc and I need to move on. But she still messages me now and again and sometimes bump into her in lifts etc.

How can I lock her off without appearing to look bitter. If I ignore her completely wont that look bitter?

At the moment I respond normally to her messages and when I bump into her I chat like I was never rejected. Should I not do this?

Thanks!

Nah this is good. You should still be gaming her and getting rejected over and over until you win. If that can't happen then you should be maintaining a good friendship with her and finding out about her cute friends.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

agreed keep gaming her but very lightly, even if you have no intention on hooking up with her because you were rejected. You can't make it seem like it effects you neg her appropriately but nothing over the top.

like i tell most guys a girl no matter what level has her uses, not speaking just physically of course. you have to network yourself to go through her circle of friends work your way through that ladder.

Thats great thanks guys... someone told me I should lock off completely and avoid fully but I thought that was a bit much and would make me appear like a loser!

I just need to now find a way to show that I dont care anymore and act not interested because she always gets the upper hand (i.e. doesnt respond to final message etc)

Dismiss in your last message. That way if she doesn't respond it's cause you didn't ask her to.

Ask her about her girlfriends and let her see you gaming other women.

Neg her constantly with little "innocent" things. "Did you get enough sleep last night? The bags under your eyes are out of control!"

Watch it turn around fast.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

Thanks Jits!

So when you say dismiss in last message you mean dont leave a message that requires her to answer... just reply back to her message and leave like that? Wont that pretty much end the convo?

Thanks for the neg! Im really bad with negging I cant find the right way to drop it or to make it subtle or innocent enough... I get worried that I might actually offend or say something too much... Would you (or anyone) else be able to give further examples of general negs I can use... I like the one you gave as an example.. what other generic ones are there that I can use... hopefully then I can be able to come up with my own ones that are specific to her!

Yes! it will kill the convo. Try to do it a at a point where even you think it is a little premature. It will leave her wanting more. You need to switch your mind on this girl... you tried to chase her and it didn't fly so let her chase you.

My favorite analogy that I learned when my dog Daisy got out of the house.

If I chase my dog she has a great time running away from me.
If I turn around and run she will have a great time chasing me.

When I want my dog back in the house I just chase her for about 1 minute and then turn around an run back in the house... every time.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

thats how the game works, I usually tell my friends if you think you may be running out of things to say. Even before it crosses your mind end the conversation prematurely. As stated above the goal is to keep the girl up in the air and wanting more, denying her that satisfaction will make her more curious about you.

this also works wonderfully in the text game as you don't have a set time when you officially send back your "response". So you can just cut conversation and resume with "oh i'm sorry something important came up" lol.

i have always found being mysterious really gets to girls, they love that air of not knowing certain parts. or having a shady past trying to become "good" again, after all girls do quite like the "bad boy" image.

This is all good advice! Its cat string theory at its finest. Never give her what she wants and watch how You will Build Higher Value just by getting the power back in your court. Good luck!

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agreed great advice thanks guys!

Don't game chicks at work bro.. The community tried to warn me but I learned the hard way. As you probaly will too lol.. Because if you guys don't live happily ever after like some fairy tale it'll make an incomftertable environment at work..

Just a word of advice..

"The easiest way to get someones attention is to no longer want it".