what it means, capps, is that if a woman wants to act like a man with a vagina, i will treat her like a man with a vagina.

sex.

no relationship.

it's a simple concept.

Thank you everyone for your responses so far. Bear with me, this is a long message, but I wanted to address a some of your points. It seems that there a few different perspectives.
I agree with this completely, which is maybe why I challenge so much, I want to make sure that this man is able to actually lead me, I also think you bring up a great point that there may be some sort over compensating there.
HANDS DOWN AGREE! It is not a "I don't let people say no to me", sort of thing, more along the lines of men rarely say no to me without any manipulation or persuasion on my part. A man who can say no to me, and say it regularly, has the most relationship potential in my opinion.
Your answer actually helped a lot. Part of my question was whether or not I was being unreasonable with what I'm looking for. I think you're right that it will have to be someone who is also constantly on the go, and who is willing to call me out as well as challenge me, but for there to still be a strong mutual respect.
Thank you for this. It makes me realize that I don't want to have a great guy who is a real man and push him away by constantly making him prove this, which is probably what I do, not on a constant basis, but probably often enough that it can be a bit too much. Also, can't I be bold/spontaneous (rock climber here!) AND difficult? :p
Doesn't piss me off at all. I was hoping to get a variety of view points, and would actually agree with you, although as someone else mentioned, to some degree that ideal isn't always realistic. I do think that traditional gender roles are best in relationships. But, to go off on a little tangent, it seems like a lot of men shy away from this nowadays though, and I'm fairly convinced that decades of women have screwed this up for the traditionally inclined women today by trying to become equal on every level. Which is not biologically or anthropologically reasonable as far as I'm concerned.
You're right the constant challenging is definitely something that occurs early on in dating and more so with men who engage me and actually challenge me back, in which case I will inevitably push back harder. Once someone earns my respect though I do relax and am able to stop challenging, UNLESS I detect some sort of behavior or attitude that I don't see as manly, then I'll challenge, I guess as a way of making them prove that manliness. (@Mack 2.0 says this is BAD and something I will work on scaling back a bit)

Thanks again everyone, I think I just wanted to know whether what I am looking for is realistic, and whether or not my challenging and the frequent push/pull was off-putting.

That is exactly what my mother told me. She was a true "women's lib" lady in the 1970's and can still beat me at tennis, but even she thinks it has gone too far and the baby has been thrown out with the bathwater.

Economics has been given as a knock against traditional sex roles. However, there are countries such as India where women are white collar workers, but then put on the traditional wife hat when they get home. India is growing a lot faster than any other country besides China.

men are naturally inclined to fight, kill, and hunt

women are naturally inclinded to bear children, nest, and nurture

just imagine how gloriously those two things could work together if people didn't pollute nature's way with propoganda.

i am a feminist myself, but you can be a FEMININE feminist.

women have been fed this line of shit that they have to "act like a man" to be equal.

equal doesn't mean "the same". it just means equal.

Agreed, Mac!

I think the misunderstanding, or lack of clarity, is based upon the way the first post came off. I HATE not having people, let alone a women, to be able to challenge my thoughts, beliefs, and actions...that is NECESSARY to ANY relationship. I think what it sounded like from the first post was someone who is CONSTANTLY doing this. If this is not something is CONSTANTLY happening, we as men not only want this, but NEED it. But ANYTHING in droves is too much for any relationship....

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