hey guys...Ive been talking to this girl I met online for a while. This last weekend we met up for the first time and i feel like we both were comfortable with each other and had a good time. She texted me as soon as i dropped her off saying "thanks for hanging out and she was glad we did." Now after hanging out with her, I have stronger feelings for her. Should I ask her if this feeling is mutual or should I keep cool and i guess kind of play hard to get?

Would appreciate your guy's opinions and advice! Thanks guys!

Play it cool, maybe not hard to get, but keep other options open to occupy your time. Since the date went well, how about a quick field report for a few pointers?

Thanks for the response...sure would love some pointers!

So we actually met online and have been talking for few months, but started to talk almost everyday for the past couple weeks. Since communication was going well, I felt I should ask her out on a first date to finally see her in person. I picked her up from her house and went to eat sushi. At first I was really worried that things would be awkward and we would have nothing to say. However, during dinner I felt that communication was good and we we're both comfortable with each other. I refrained myself from asking too deep of questions because it would maker her feel like "she was the one" right from the start. So we just had fun and interesting conversation about places we've travelled and music since we both like the same type of music. I am also a dj so this is great we can talk about things that I really enjoy and have passion for. After dinner, she offered to split the bill but I suggested that she could pay next time. I wasn't familiar with the area, so she suggested we go to a hookah bar. At the hookah bar again....we had good communication and we were both laughing a lot having a good time.

One of the things that kinda stuck in my head though was we got to talking about relationships. And she said she was scared to get into a relationship because she was scared to get hurt. However she said..."I am looking for something, but I dont know what I want." Not sure what she really meant by that. We keep talking and things are going well. And her friend calls her and ends up coming to the hookah bar. She hangs out for a bit and offers to take us to a party but we both didn't really feel like going. So she ended up leaving and we stayed for a bit longer. We end up leaving the hookah bar and took her home. Once we got infront of her house, she offered to make a CD for me. So she grabs her laptop and listen to make a cd in my car. Of course I had the idea to kiss her but I felt the timing wasn't natural(i probably should have...)

So after hanging out for a little I say good night and gave her a hug and she waves my good bye from her house. As Im driving home I get a text from her saying "glad we hung out tonight and thanks for coming out." I tell her we should hang out again and she agreed.

Next day I wanted to let her know I had a good time So I messaged her on facebook wall saying "i had fun hanging out last night" she responded immediately "yeaa! super chill haha" note: during the date she said that she though I had a very chill kick back personality.

We were both online that next day and talked very briefly because I felt there wasn't much to talk about. and now after hanging out with her my feelings for her are stronger. Thats why I asked if i Should ask her if this feeling is mutual or keep cool.

Anyways thats about it....let me know what you guys think or what i can improve on. what i can do next time... maybe the best way to get a second date..so on....

Appreciate any help! thanks guys!!

IMO, you did everything right. You've shown that you're just enjoying life too. Remain laid back, continue to invite her on dates, I'd suggest something exotic like go-kart racing or a carnival somewhere. Just surprise her. Show her that you enjoy her company more then anything and don't mention anything about feelings. Move in for the kiss when the opportinuty presents itself.

Women don't like to feel forced into a relationship, they like things to just "kinda happen".

I'll tell you what I applaud though, her friend called her. Most likely to save her from a "bad date" (yes, girls really do that) and she invited her friend out with you! then she blew off her friend and a party to spend the rest of the night with you! Sounds to Library like she's definitely interested in you, just continue to have fun with her and it will all fall into place.

congratulations on your successful date though!

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First things first " Get rid of that pedestal ".....

Now second play it cool and just keep doing what you have been doing, I mean it got you this far didn't it?

Its way too early to start asking about feelings, especially since I get the vibe you have not even slept with this chick yet..

Be a cool guy and don't let your emotions mess it up for you!

hey guys... really appreciate the responses and suggestions!

You guys definitely gave me some confidence in the way things went and at the same time I see where I can work on my "game"