You're experiencing one-it-is. Sad but true.

Bottom line is that you're SPAM the needy vibe so much that forget her, no other woman would want to be with you in this state of yours.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

While I appreciate your attempts to help, both posts that you have made here have not been of much help and pretty much come across as negative nellie. Most people come on here and suggest ways to "get" the girl, and your advice has now twice been, give up.

I have already told you - this is not the only girl I am hanging out with right now. AMOF, I am meeting up with one of them right after school. I'll text you a picture if you like of us having a good time.

I don't understand how I'm giving off the needy vibe anyway - I've sent her four messages in 10 days.

So I sent this:

"so salmon at my house is still an option but I came up with something that would be even more fun."

and waited five minutes...

"how about an exclusive guided night tour of the the DC monuments. It is limited availability tour with available in English, French and Italian (if necessary) and provides the most spectacular views in the city. All you will need is a comfortable pair of shoes, your warm jacket and a sense of adventure."

She wrote back: "I'm always up for an adventure "

So I set it up for Thursday and we're hanging out again.

She must like the "needy" vibe.

As I'm sure we all like to be updated...

Met on the mall, and had a good time. She had yoga scheduled for the morning at 6am, so I knew it would be an early night.

Started off a little bit cold but I hadn't seen her in a couple weeks so I was kind of expecting that. I'm good at making girls feel comfortable so that didn't last. I packed a bunch of stuff to eat: cheese and crackers, clementines, mangos, hot chocolate, chocolate. I told her at the very beginning of the date, "I brought treats, too." "ooooh, what did you bring?" "silly, that's a surprise "

So, to get from the Lincoln Memorial, to the Jefferson memorial you have to drive. We went back to my car and when we got out the the JM, I grabbed my cooler bag. She was really impressed and said something along the lines of "this is all really cute..." I wasn't sure what to say, and she followed it up with "that was a compliment by the way." so I said "well, I happy that you feel that way...it just gets cuter" - I saw that she was getting cold so I pulled out the hot chocolate and had some frangelica and chambord to add if she wanted. Lots of approvals from her like "I can't believe this guy brought hot fricking chocolate".

Throughout the date, there was some kino on her part but not much. We were trying to figure out a place to eat, but the parks all close at dark so she invited me back to her appartment. I named a couple of places where we could go park anyway just to make sure, but she said, "no, let's just go to my appartment, but no judging."

We get there and she is very nice and we sit on the couch but she always keeps her distance between us. Around 10:30, I just say, "well you have yoga tomorrow..." And of course, this is where the mistake might have come...we are walking back and forth between her kitchen and I stop her to give her a hug and a kiss but she is a little non-responsive, putting her head in my chest. I look at her and wait for her to lift her head up and give her a kiss that isn't much of one.

She offers to walk me to the front door of the building, I give her another quick kiss on the way out and head home.

So, obviously, being invited to her appartment is big but then she is kind of distant there.

One of the things she did say to me at her appartment, and I forgot how this came up but she also mentioned it on our first date. She said something about me being a player, and I just laughed and said, "you think I'm a player??? hahaha" and she goes, "well, no, I just think you get bored really easy" and sits down next to me. "But, you are so very exciting." I say laughing at her (which she is to me, of course, but I said it in a teasing way)

"How am I supposed to know when you are serious, and when your not - you know, this is like the get-to-know you stage" and she goes on rambling about how her brother dead-pans and blah, blah, blah, not even sure she let me say anyting else.

One thing I was thinking was sending a text message to her and say: "I'm really not bored hanging out with you and would be up for it again sometime." kind of putting the ball in her court.

Another was to perhaps give her a call over the weekend just to talk. And another was to wait and see if she contacts me and if she doesn't it, chalk it up.

Two other tidbits: she has a copy of The Game in her bookcase which she claims not to have read, and that it only works on hot girls with low self-esteem. Second, there were 6-8 roses on her dining room table - which we've all suspected, she's been dating someone else. Which honestly, doesn't bother me.