I want to be 65/67kg... not 80kg! I'm 1m80 for 62kg (5.9ft for 136.7 pounds). It's okay in Europe, but I feel skinny here! I have to check some information about how and what to eat... and also about the weight gainers. I don't know anything about this. I might write a thread to get some help about that.

I will have to know how to count calories now...

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I want to be 65/67kg... not 80kg! LOL. I'm 1m80 for 62kg (5.9ft for 136.7 pounds). It's okay in Europe, but I feel skinny here! I have to check some information about how and what to eat... and also about the weight gainers. I don't know anything about this. I might write a thread to get some help about that.

I will have to know how to count calories now... Thanks for the tip.

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Quick Update.

Little Miss Sunshine.
I was supposed to see her today to go get an ice-cream but I had no news until 9.25pm. She sent me a text-message saying that she was going to a club and that we'll get our ice-cream there... I guess she was going with some friends. Is she affraid of seing me alone? I don't know. Anyway, I could not go because I have to pay attention to the money I have left since I lost my credit card. So I refused the invitation and told her I was having a drink with a friend and that she should have told me before. She apologized and told me she decided to go there at the last moment.

Anyway, I'm getting tired of this. I asked her to get an ice-cream with me today, she answered that she'll come back to me and end up by inviting me to a club where she's going with some friends... Okay, she's got her life, no problem about that but she should invest more time in me. I have been really patient here.

I want a date!

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Bro shes not the only girl in the world man. You can find a chick sitting by herself eating lunch and say "Hey I was wondering I didn't want to sit alone, may I join you? ...Unless your not friendly tell me now so I wouldn't bother if not then Hi my Name is Daniel" There bro you have an instant date man.

Its important that you let her qualify so that you don't seem desperate or anything.

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just read that little miss sunshine post.

She wants you to meet her friends .... thats good.

Dominate the friends and youll have her hooked. But good choice on not meeting her, that woudl of been a dlv.

You shouldnt of made her apoligise though, my opinion lol gd luck daniel

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This website helped me a lot http://www.all-musculation.com
(it's in French).

Good luck with gaining weight!

It is a LONG and HARD process (at least for me, it is)

I am 65 kg for 1.75m. Every Kg to add, it requires huge effort. Of course I can just start eating junk food and stuff. But then all the weight goes to only one part of the body... the belly! Not the best way to gain few kg, lol...

I don't think you should make the goal of gaining weight expecting to reach some kind of results in the time you're there in Brazil... you're there just for 6 months right?

I wouldn't subscribe a gym membership or something like that.
What I would do is:

1) do exercise on your own (youtube is full of this stuff), for 15 minutes every morning before breakfast
2) NEVER deny any kind of social "sport" activities. If you're invited to a soccer game, go, even if you suck at soccer. If you're invited to a volleyball game, go, even if you're the only dude there (LOL).
3) Walk more (this is true for Italy, it might not be a good suggestion for a city like Sao Paulo)
4) buy a bycicle! If some place is 30 minutes of bus far from your house, most probably is 30 minutes of bike far! Pedalare, baby, pedalare!

ABOVE ALL

It is NOT about gaining weight, it is about FEELING IN SHAPE.
If you feel in shape, full of power and energy, even if you're 63 or something, the girl will get your "healthy" vibe.
If you're 80 Kg but you don't feel in shape, and climbing 2 floors of stairs make you breath like after a marathon, the girls won't give you any time...

It is not about LOOKING GOOD, it is about BEING AND FEELING GOOD

IME, if you want to gain muscle, you have to go to the gym. To gain muscles you have to lift heavy and you cannot do it home (unless you have a bench, weights...).

Running, cycling, walking won't make you heavier.

I still believe that it's quite important to be muscular. You'll look better and therefore you'll feel better.

Because you claim that ^this is STILL your dream, I am going to try to explain an alternate 'philosophy' for you just one more time; everything in your life . . . it's your choice.

The practice of modern Western/allopathic medicine is a system of identifying, then eradicating the cause of disease. Modern medicine's approach to cancer is a good example: 1. Cancerous cells cause malfunctions in the body that threatens health. 2. Cancer must be destroyed. 3. a) Cut it out (Surgery), b) Zap it out (Radiation), c) Poison it, (chemo).

On the other hand, traditional Eastern medicine also recognizes that cancer cells cause malfunctions in the body and threatens health. What follows however is not a demonization of cancer. (It's not good. It's not bad . . . it's just doing what it does when given a certain environment to flourish) What they look for thus are the types of habits and environments that allowed cancer to flourish; this is what they look to change.

^Two different philosophies. . .

A few posts ago, I recommended to 'not fight your thoughts', instead, just accept them as it is . . . but be aware of them. Fighting your thoughts is an attempt to DESTROY it. To block them, is to vilify your own thoughts. . . which is to vilify your self and your actions. If you accept your emotions, even negative ones . . . it is possible then to watch your emotions in amusement. You can follow your emotions as it winds through your mind. You'll realize the daily things that you do that allow these emotions to flourish. . . you'll end up laughing at it . . . and controlling it . . . It's not the emotions that are good or bad. Your emotions are simply doing what it's supposed to do when offered certain environments that you have power to control. On the other hand, if you cannot accept it, your only path is to eradicate it or live in discomfort.

So . . . one more mention of your ex and that's it. You seemed to accept the fact that this was ALL ABOUT YOU and yet, your actions do not show it. Although physically, you would be congratulating her, you would in fact be congratulating yourself. And it's because you cannot do this that you could not accept:
A girl who is NOT thinking about a guy does not call/text him up at 9:30pm to invite him out to a club. Any ladies here? When/why do you actually invite a guy(one you recently met) later in the evening to INVITE him to a club? And I'm certain she doesn't see you as a source of free drinks for her and her friends. Look . . .I know Brazil is a fast moving place but she's a KID. And she's got this crazy French dude who she's crazy about. She's nervous. . .

So after thinking about this all day, possibly after a drink or two, probably after talking to her friends about it all day, they probably convinced her, "You like him so much. Stop being so stupid. Invite him. Invite him. Invite him. I want to meet him. etc ..."
^See what's going on here? "1. Oops, here's that bad feeling again. 2. I don't like it. 3. I want this feeling to go away. 4. I just won't go." - Then the rationalization, "It should be like this, it should be like that. She's got her life. I've been patient and I'm the good one. Better mind my cash flow . . ." (By the way, I would have seen her text as an invitation for a FEW RINGS CLOSER to her center of gravity and gone over there . . . and stopped by the local store on the way for condoms.)

Remember, this is your dream:
Your dream is not:

"I want to find one or two girls who will be attracted to my quirky style."

It's just a choice.

I totally agree on this.

BUT you need to go to the gym 3 times a week regularly and eat like a bison. AND the results won't take few time to appear... we are speaking abou AT LEAST 6 months of committment.
Given his situation (exchange student, 6 month in Brazil, super busy between school, pick-up and social circle, not to mention writing and reading those journals and pick-up material), he does not have time and committment to do it.

What I suggested is a better suited alternative to his situation...

I understand your point and I have no idea about how busy he is. If you really want something, you'll make the efforts and you'll be ready to make some sacrifice.

I started to go to the gym as an exchange student and it's a good way to meet local people.

Anyway, it doesn't matter that much, I just want him to have another perspective.

@Znal & @TheFuckingItalian

I know that gaining weight is hard... I'm eating a lot of junk food here (no Burger Kings in France so I'm enjoying it) but I don't gain weight. Actually, since I started to work out on my journey, I've even lost 2 kilos!

I'm not trying to gain 10 kilos anyway. But I would like to be less skinny that's all. So yes, I think 5 kilos is a good objective, yet hard to achieve. I've been looking for some information (maybe I'll do a post later). Here's what I understood so far:

- Seems like I'm an ectomorph: it's hard to gain weight for this type of body.
- I need to eat more: 3 times a day plus some collations.
- I need to work out intensively: it's going to stimulate my hunger.
- I need to eat pasta, bread, rice...
- I need to eat fruits and vegetables since they contain indispensable stuff for the muscles.
- I should not drink a lot while eating.
- I should use a Weight Gainer product.

I already walk a lot and try my best to be in shape... but I want to gain weight, and the only way to do that is to go to the gym. Of course, I won't be able to go there 1h30 more than twice a week. But I though that maybe by eating more, taking some Weight Gainer and going to the gym twice a week could allow me to gain the 5 kilos I want...

I would like to have bigger arms and get some kilos in my chest. That would make me feel way more confident. The first results of my small work out session in France were a huge confidence boost.

But I want to be clear! Like TheFuckingItalian said, I won't be able to commit to it like I should. But I think it won't be wasted time and I could get 3/4 kilos out of the work out, the eating and the Weight Gainer.

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I have to tell you, man... getting a girl inviting you WHEREVER is gold.
I am a month in the game, i still don't get any girl calling me for meeting at the club or anything for that matters.

I always have to be the initiator of the contact, and "push" for some meeting or even something casual. I don't like it, but I don't have choises.

A girl calling you for hang out is a treasure, even if the girl is ugly, even if you're not gaming her, even if the place she invited you is a crappy boring not-your-style bar.