So when im aimng girls i always start giving them shit. How far is too far, like are there forbidden areas to make fun of a girl for (in a joking manner of course) also applicable in real life, i just find i always feel im going to far online. I dont want to hurt any girls from what i say. So boundarys? Anyone?

The thing is, You don't neg shy girls 'cause that will scare them away.
The whole idea of negging is to disqualify Yourself from hitting on her. You want to get as close as possible to this boundary where she might get pissed off but at the same time You don't want to cross the line.


Field will teach You in my opinion.

Good Luck,
Mav-

I would say weight is one area that's off limits. Negging about clothes or little things is okay, but when you start getting into things that they could be self concious about, than you'll lose them. It goes from being funny and playful to just mean.

As a general rule of thumb, it is off limits to make fun of anything a target doesn't have control over: if genetics plays a role, its definitely not something good to make fun of her for. These aren't negs, they are personal attacks.

* Weight
* Age
* Race

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In other words, appropriate reaction for neg is laughter. If they don't laugh, You're doing it wrong. Maybe 'cause of delivery or maybe just in this particular situation.

Look dude, for the most part you should stay away from hard negging. Hard negging is more reserved for really hot girls or girl who are just more bitchy. In general though, you should TEASE girls and it should very clear that you are playing around. You CAN tease about age weight and race if it is clearly a joke like "it will never work out between us. I only date 300 lb black girls" (credit Sinn).

It sounds like u have more balls when ur in AIM. You need to get out there and talk try more things in person and on the phone.
Fuck AIM. and Fuck spending too much time negging or teasing. It doesn't get you laid. Tease a little bit to get a little attraction then push it forward. You don't need to be busting her balls non-stop.

thanks guys

I use to negg a lot, but once I got good at everything else, I barely do it.

The only reason to neg is to bring her down a peg. But if your looking good, having fun, and everyone is already attracted to you, then it comes off like a douchebag.

The hotter the girl the more you need it.

I've gone out, met a girl, about an 8, and kiss closed and had the girl buying me drinks all night and I didn't neg her once.

Spend some time not negging at all to see how much you need to improve the other areas.

I make fun of my black girls all the time. They love it!

Definitely not weight or looks in general though.

If you are ever wondering if a neg is too far, DON'T. It should be cocky and FUNNY, not insulting. Ever.

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There's often a difference between your "rating" of a girl, and her self-perceived value. I really hate the rating system, but for simplicity's sake: say you deem a girl to be a "6" ... due to all the male attention from this increase in social network sites and online dating, that girl can easily strut around with a perceived value of being a 7 or 8, and act accordingly. Just as likely, your "8" can have major self esteem issues, and perceive herself as a 7 or 6 ...

In my opinion: never base your decision of how hard to neg a girl on how hot you think she is. Base it always on her self-perceived value.

Speaking of the internet...
Yes, it's easy to overdo it on the internet- another reason why you should avoid using it as a gaming tool. You're a lot more cocky behind a screen.. a lot more witty. If she's attracted to this and decides to meet you, you're most likely going to disappoint her if you're not all that and then some.

With that being said, it's also hard to pull off these negs online, because there's no tonality of voice, no facial expressions involved... what you say can be taken the wrong way.


From what I've seen on here, a lot of guys neg all wrong- perhaps we should stop calling them negs, and start calling them backhanded COMPLIMENTS; that should clear up some of the confusion. In any case, I would stay away from anything to do with her weight, as blondguy said; but as far as looks go- just yesterday my boyfriend was staring at me...

Me: Ha, what are you looking at?
Him: Your left eye is a lot cuter than your right one

Lol... all in good fun

As far as age goes, I would only avoid it if she's over say... 25. Just to be safe. And again with race, it depends. Weight would be the only thing I'd say avoid at all costs.


-Roz

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