Sorry for my english...

The Question:
How do you act when you face a girl playing hard to get and using push and pull?

If you have time to read:

I met HB9 a year ago. I tried with her but I was too needy at that time. Didn't work. So I didn't talk to her for month. I went for others girls. I made myself a GF. HB9 recontacts me 3 weeks ago and my feelings for her came back. So, I broke up with my GF yesterday.I know i'm an asshole but I didn't want to stay in a "fake relationship" and hurt more my GF that I had loved.

So HB9 text me to come study with her, propose to go the restaurant just the two of us, etc.. But at the same times when i ask her to do some stuff... She can't. When I saw her at the bar, she gives me cold shoulder. On the other side, she is acting like a little girl at the restaurant...

I know she is interested like 85%. My instinct tell me she is. Sometimes there is a lot of IOIs. Sometimes 0. It seems like she is being moody with me.

Right now, my strategy is to go active disinterest. I ask her to go out and when she can't I don't react. But it just seem impossible to make her get in my hoops like I did with others girls. It's like a battle right now of who is more alpha and independant.. It is ridiculous...

It's not ridiculous because that's the way the game works. A lot of girls aren't that 1,2,3 as you want them to be. They actually deserve/demand the input of the guy, they know they can have a lot of guys so when they actually want one.. this guy has to prove himself "worthy" enough for her. In other words, independant enough.

One of the female basic psychologies in the world is - they need a mate that understands their needs & desires. but they NEED that mate. They actually need it more than we do, so they are going to be a lot more demanding to it. They are going to test you like hell, if they want you and therefor you'll have a hard time actually getting them.

The best thing to do is - don't back off, but step a few steps aside. Don't go out of her sight range, but be on the border of it.

≠ LD

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Thanks,
But it is like a dead end. Two independant people who don't want to show too much interest. It's going nowhere.

damn, LD, that just blew my mind!

do you really suppose that is the case?

i just assumed women were shallow and it is pretty much us who wants them.

i'd love to read anything you know of on that subject.

You have mentioned about "who is more Alpha and Independent." Keep it simple, be the Alpha and the Independent.

From the situation stated, you have said that she re-established contact when you got a girlfriend, then you mentioned that she is 85% attracted based on your instinct.

She's being moody because she caught you into her mind games. Get the hell out of there, it is not your game. Control the situation! she re-established contact when you had a girlfriend means that she's still chasing you. Make her chase, show her that you do not need her!

I strongly agree on going active disinterest, this will challenge her, this will make her work on getting you back, just as she did when she re-established contact when you have a girlfriend.

When you are around with her, don't show her that you need her. Act as if your time is very valuable that you don't want it to be wasted and if she still acts that way (moody or sending you uncertain messages that makes you wonder if she is attracted or not), you will be leaving(do some stuff, have a life) because in your mind, "she is just lucky to have a piece of your time and she must learn to value it."

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Thanks guys. This help. It's strange how the game can be different between a HB8 and a 9/9.5.