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I hope you realize that the girl just presented you with a 'hoop' which means that she was presenting you with an opportunity go through the hoop by qualifying yourself, which one should not do. so the way to handle a hoop is by avoiding it with either a non-answer or flip the script by asking her.
I disagree that this was a hoop. I understand where you're coming from, but the fact that you guys did a name exchange means you completed A1 and were entering
A2: DHVing yourself to build attraction between the girls and yourself. You toss in a few negs if your sets are HB9s, 10s to drop their self worth and up your own.
This is where you would use what Mystery calls the
"Grounding Routine". If you've ever heard of the "Eleveator Speech" in Business, this is a spinoff of that. In an elevator speech, you have 30 seconds (From the time the doors close to the elevator until your prospective sale gets off on their floor) to make them interested in you and exchange business cards. So, your elevator speech hits the highlights of your career and your resume to get them impressed with your work. The Grounding Routine is similar in that respect, because you're on the clock.
You create a fun, 5-10 minute routine that is unique to you (There is no stock material for this, you have to create it yourself.). Essentially, you tell them your life story in a very fun, playful way, but you "Ground" your story in their reality.
Case in point. A woman does not want to hear about your work in Information Technology. It's boring. She doesn't care that you're a lawyer, or an investment banker, or an attorney: it's all boring.
Your job is to take her on a journey of your interests from when you were young, tossing in amusing anecdotes ("I was riding my bike when I was 10, and I fell and broke my arm" or "I watched my mom nurse a sick baby bird back to health... and those experiences made me want to become a doctor." )
along the way. Continue with college, funny stories from classes, that have made you who you are today and put you in front of your audience. A2 is great fun because it gives you a chance to talk about the subject you literally have the most knowledge than anyone in the world in: you. And the best part is, whatever you say will be widely regarded as truth, so long as it isn't too far "out there": Don't say you were in Vietnam, or Curing Cancer. The best fibs are those that have a grain of truth in them, so that if someone calls you on your bullshit (If you do decide to lie, which you don't have to do but it can be fun.), you have *something* to fall back on.
Example:
" ... and now I'm part of the development team that worked on the latest changes to Facebook." BAM. You've spent 5-10 minutes talking to your set, fully qualified yourself to them, earned social proof with everyone in the venue ("why is this guy talking to those hot girls? he must be a somebody"), and have forced the girls you are talking to to talk to you for the next 30 minutes about facebook -- what they like, what they hate, etc. Make them qualify themselves to you ("Why should I care about what you have to say? What makes YOU interesting, ladies?") -- you've just entered A3 in 5 minutes. Much better than simply saying "I'm a programmer." and then trailing off into awkward silence, yeah?
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