Now iv been with my gf for about 6 months now and the same thing has been bugging me for ages and i dont know why. Shes a really good girl and last year her friends were with her and went out and she grinded on this guy (i know this is really minor) but for some reason it bugs the fucking hell out of me.

Any ideas on how to get over it, and dont just say get over it cos it dont work lol. Tough love or anything would be appreciated

I went through something like that a while ago. Me and my gf took a break for a few weeks. We both hooked up with people. And at first it drove me crazy because, well you know the feeling.

You basically have two choices, if it bothers you that badly end it.
Or accept it and focus on the positives in your relationship. Nobody is perfect and just try to focus and why you do care about her.

You can't change the past so it is best not to dwell on it.

Another thought is to look at it from her shoes. If it wasn't anything serious and she knows it bothers you then there is nothing else you really can do.

to the original poster:

it bothers you because it bothers all men. actually, it bothers all 'people' regardless of gender to see their loved one flirting (or grinding in this case) on another person.

why do women do it?

the cycle: attention > power > control > attention > power > control > attention ..........

women are never secure. they spend their entire lifetimes seeking approval through ^the cycle^ that i just depicted above.

a couple of things to realize: she may not have meant any harm by it AND don't expect it to be the last time that a "girlfriend" pulls stunts like that. they do it until they are old and gray, then their estrogen levels drop, and they start to act like men, which means two things: they stop acting out, and they stop fucking you.

kind of a horrible (but true) depiction of the dynamic between male/female in a relationship.

your only choice is to TRULY get over it and realize she is an independent being with her own sexuality and had every right to do that since you were apart, OR to be bothered by it and not be able to get over it. because if you force the issue (that she can't be a sexual being even when you two are split up) she will do three things, in this order: 1. apologize. 2. resent you. and 3. fuck your brother or best friend

^this^ is why i don't want to be in a relationship. because i don't trust women because they are NEVER comfortable in your love for them. they are forever seeking and forever testing. it's all too much for me to handle. i'd rather just fuck them. i mean, who in their right mind signs up for this shit? idk. it's useful to propagate your dna to a new generation, beyond that "relationships" are pain for guys and super-duper-fun for women.

what most men seek in a monogamous relationship: security and routine (of love)

what most women see as you not loving them: security and routine (they want action, danger, suspense, drama, passion, and to be whisked off their feet day after day, they WANT for things to be up in the air, so you can PROVE to them OVER AND OVER that you love them. because "being there" truly isn't enough)

here is how it works: either dance to her music, or she will find somebody else who does (that's the truth of the "modern" man/woman relationship)

good luck!