Alright here's the deal,

there is this one girl I am really attracted to, I know, I know, oneitis and everything. We kissed and spooned around for a bit, second base yada yada, but I have problems escalating (made another threat about it). The thing is :I would like to be in a relationship with her.
But thats not the problem I would like to discuss here.

The problem is, she has 2 ex's who have literally gone to hell after they broke up.
One is well, half dead from doing way too much drugs and alcohol, and well the other....he's in such a depressive state I'm not even sure I can qualify that as half alive.

Her main reason for not wanting to get into a relationship with me(I didnt ask her specifically yet) is she is worried we will get into a fight, break up, ruin our friendship and my life will go to shit.

Now I can play the nice guy, which was my afc solution to the problem, let her know you are there, supporting her in every way possible. It works for becoming a part of her life, but other than that it doesn't.

If there is anyone out there, reading this, thinking well this idea might just work, reply:p Any advice on topic is welcome!

i had i similar situation like this with my last girl and did a HUGE afc move, i got frustrated and broke up with her lol.

So i would also like to hear some advice to your question

but sorry no advice from me im still a newbie to the game

The problem is, she has 2 ex's who have literally gone to hell after they broke up.
One is well, half dead from doing way too much drugs and alcohol, and well the other....he's in such a depressive state I'm not even sure I can qualify that as half alive.
Her main reason for not wanting to get into a relationship with me(I didnt ask her specifically yet) is she is worried we will get into a fight, break up, ruin our friendship and my life will go to shit.

Now I can play the nice guy, which was my afc solution to the problem, let her know you are there, supporting her in every way possible. It works for becoming a part of her life, but other than that it doesn't.

If there is anyone out there, reading this, thinking well this idea might just work, reply:p Any advice on topic is welcome!


edit: FML, i just reversed the quotes to myself

You are actually right, she was talking about maybe we shouldn't get together anymore, let's just be friends again....So I was sitting in her living room for a while, reading a book and well she came asking for a hug.

I just said no, I dont feel like that right now, when you are toying with my emotions like that.

And she literally came curling up to me, begging me to give her some attention.

Perhaps ignore her for a while? Be mean?
I don't want her to totally cut all ties with me:(

Hey man,

Is this still the same girl?

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Hahahah EPIC. I literally pissed my panties

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It's still that very same girl yes.

Look - she's into an emotional state and she is doubting the fact that she can handle you being too much for her to handle. Girls like these are really hard situations because of the fact that they are not stable enough to actually live into a decent situation - i.o.w. a strong relationship.

I wouldn't advise you to keep going AT THIS MOMENT, she is clearly clueless about the fact what's happening right now with this everything and she has no clue how to continue with it. If you don't watch out, you'll be the next guy in the row.

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No, her main reason for not wanting to get into a relationship with you is because you're a square. She gets excited by fucked up, drugged up, alcoholic losers, then she uses all of that as an excuse to dump them. She'll repeat the process until the day she dies.

If you think she'll be fun to play with, then play the role of a fucked up loser and you're in. The day you turn back to the square that you are, she'll stop getting interested. If you continue to play the f'd up character, you'll get to F her for about as the other screwballs until she finds some fresh loser meat.

If you're not much off an actor, she won't buy it and she'll just find another fuck up to fuck and fuck over.

ditto

You need to move on man. From the sound of it,she's not emotionaly stable enough to have a relationship(healthy one). You were not put on this earth to "save" anybody from there past/bad luck.

Work on finding a girl who doesn't neces. "need" you but wil grow with you. someone who will enhance your life more than it already is.

Be a Man.

ahhh stop maken fun of me!! hahahaa

shes hot, and if you think shes worth it then dont stop.
when i have situations like this i know that having patients is KEY

i get all restless, and end up fucking it all up by pushing to hard trying to get answers.
which leads to failing, and feeling like a dumb fucking idiot


so have patients! could take 2 weeks or even 2 months