| Hello all,
Today I'll be talking about the most efficiant mindset/behaviour pattern that can occur in PU. This is the style of the actual Social Circle PUA. Now these experiences that I'm going to list you are purely (again) based on my surroundings and my experiences. DO not take it as a guaranteed guideline to succes with PU, it's merely a good way to improve your mindset.
First off, when I go out with students on the street or just regular friends, I always see the same margin for error. They always talk about doing great things and meeting lots of women (to their standard.) However, when the deed is being put, they hardly make match with their words, they have a lot of anxiety and have a lot of problems with addressing somebody for a lot of things. For example; sometimes asking the road to somebody - is a really big challenge. Sounds familiar, doesn't it?
When you go out, there is always a difference in which group you are going out. Wether it would be a group with your best friends, or a group where you only know one person... you're behaviour will be a lot more at ease in the first group because of the social aspect. Your friends know how you work, what drives you, what ticks you of and how you have fun.. therefor you are not "constrained" by any fear for the unknown. Now picture you in the second group, you know one person of a group of - let's say - 6 people. This means 4 people do not know you, this is the majority and you'll feel held back due to the fact that it is really hard to communicate with people you do not know or behave as you normally should. The human being is from the beginning always curious about what other people think of him/her, this is what actually makes PU or any other social form of interaction the hardest. The fear of dislike & unknown things.
Now that we actually have covered the basics around this phenonomen. Let's address this issue at hand. Yet, once again, these are things that happened to me aswell, I'm speaking out of my experiences. It is for nobody considered as an actual guideline or certainty to get better results. However, it will help your game improve a lot.
1. The mindset of a social gamer
When I go out, I am never ashamed of what I'm doing. Hell, I had to go to work today and it was the local market in my city, my bustop was next to it. I had my ipod in my ears and just had fun on the beats. I didn't care about what people were thinking of me, I was living in my world, with my rules of engagement!
This is the actual mindset that you have to have. The mindset of that you are living in the world that you create and that people can only get there if you want them to be. You're the king of your own castle and the inhabitants of that castle are those who you chose them to be. Now, the key to actually getting to this mindset is relatively simple.
Whenever you go out, imagine these few things;
- I have the crown, speak like you have the crown on your head. Speak as if you are the king and you decide how many people and who are your "inhabitants of the castle."
- Be the life of the group. You need to be the one that injects positive vibing, the crazyness inside the group. You can do this on a lot of ways - for example fistbumping everybody, making sure you smile to everybody you see, dominating them by rubbing over their heads, standing in the circle of your group of friends while dancing... this is purely demonstrating you are the man.
- When you're in a group of unknown people, you need to realise. They do not you know either. They have no clue about who you are and since you are the king.. let them feel this. Let them see why you are the king! Be friendly, be cocky, be dancing, be laughing, be interesting.. be everything that a good king has to be!
Now this concludes this article. It can be that I will add some things in the near future, but remember these words You are the king!
≠ LD
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