Right, I went out with a girl around 4 years ago, relationship lasting around 5 years and it was extremely involved, both very into each other, close etc. (She was my first real gf) I got to a point in my life when I realised perhaps I want a little more, or something different. At this point I ended the relationship, and it was extremely difficult for her. I went off, for the next few years and essentially sarged and closed as many girls as I could, and was successful enough to be happy with my decision to end the relationship.

^ Background

So now, I am still very much in contact with this girl and she has recently (6 months ago) split from her boyfriend that she had pretty much since I split with her.

We see each other quite often (every few weeks) and we get on well... HOWEVER

- I am horribly attracted to her again (she doesnt know this), and cannot seem to keep my higher value
- She talks about her ex, and other guys she has seen, often
- I feel like im stuck and unable to break this

I know i am in friendzone, but does anyone have any advice to help me escape? Or at least tips on how to act like the guy I normally am around girls, how I used to be around her, my beliefs are shot up and I change my entire inward thought process around her, because the feelings are so damn strong...!

Any help would be appreciated big style,

Cheers all

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If i find myself in this type of situation, I usually separate myself from it until i have regained my bearings. It's hard to focus and get a hold on your emotions when your 'twisted'.

This girl is bringing up other guys just to get you jealous and insecure. Think of it as as an attempt to get a reaction out of you, like a child who doesn't get what she wants. It is pretty childish if you think about it. You hurt her before, so now she is trying to get you back for what happened...immature/childish games. Now you know why some GURUS tell you to treat girls like little brats.

Anyway, you should look at it as a compliment. If she didn't care, she wouldn't bring up these other guys to make you jealous. And if she cares, you can toy with her emotions.

You need to get a handle on this if you wish to get back into the drivers seat.

The next time she says something about an ex, you can disconnect from the conversation, bring up a girl from YOUR past and compare it to her story, or call her a$$ out. "Listen, I enjoy the stories of you and your little boyfriends, but I'm growing bored, lets move on."

Or, my favorite...change the conversation about an ex into something sexual and ask very explicit questions. If she gets defensive or says something like 'why are you asking me that'. Your response can be, 'oh, I thought you wanted to talk about him (them), since you're always bringing it up'. I know, this is a bit childish, but who cares...it's my way of toying with her.

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Cheers pal, thats actually really helpful. Im going to have to start not caring about the outcome of my interactions with her as well, thats proving difficult, but i swear she is making it difficult on purpose.

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