So yesterday my mate stopped by, we talked for a while and decided to just go out somewhere and enjoy ourselves.

We stopped by his house, drank 1 beer each and around 9 pm we hit one awesome pub with a dance floor in it (music: rock, reggae, r'n'b & bits of latino stuff). And his dad offered us some homemade wine even .

When we entered the place seemed pretty packed, didn't really have any free seats.
I didn't have dime on me that night but it was my friend's treat (I would've have fun without anyway, it would be even better ). He got us beers and we were just leaning back against some couch of a mixed 3-set (1 guy, 2 girls). My mate asked them if maybe we could sit next to them since the couch was very big and they didn't mind.

I was kind of sitting on the edge so was bit cut off of the conversation at the beginning. I got the guy's name but not the girls. At one point some other guy walks to the dancefloor asking one of the girls to dance but they refused and he was just standing there hoping that they change their mind, and I have to say, it looked a bit pathetic . As he walked away they had this strange look on their face so I made fun of it saying "Ohh, and now they regret! Look at him, [pointing on empty dancefloor with this one guy dancing alone] " they laughed a bit and I said "I could go like: 'No, but I won't mind a dance'" with a gay-like tone so everyone burst out laughing. Girls replied with something like "Next time we'll recommend You ". My friend ejected somewhere else so I was just being this friendly guy talking to this 3-set. Nothing fancy really except that I was then sitting in the middle of that couch, leaning fully back like I bloody own that place Few various friends would walk up to me and just said Hi so it was really all in favor of my social proof.
At one point I was alone with this one girl (her boyfriend went to toilet) and we chatted a bit, I did ESP routine which failed. I've no idea what I do wrong with it, really. 3-4 times I've done it so far and not even one time I succeeded with it . And she even said something like "Maybe people tend to choose the same number." (Ha-ha, oh really ?) but I said only "I wouldn't know. Sometimes it works and I had guesses with number 5 for example so it's not always the same " and then I stacked forward and talked how I used to be in that sorta stuff but not really much nowadays.

Another action was in my full control of a mixed 6-set (3 guys, 3 girls) Once the 3-set that was sitting next to me left the party this one guy walks up to me asking if THEY could sit down. I said I don't mind even though I had no idea who he referred to as "THEY" (though I saw some small group of people nearby). Next thing I see are those 3 girls (7-7.5 blond, 7.5-8 brunette and 7 tall brunette). So I ask girls "If You're gonna sit next to me You're gonna tell me Your names... or I can come up with some ", she asks me "Like what?", I think for a second and then just burst with some preposterous name, she laughed and just told me her name . Then I just made friends with other girls and the 3 other guys were just sitting bit further, kinda detached from group. I asked girls how do they know each other and they replied "Oh, we're sisters." and I really couldn't believe it and bust on them saying they're fucking with me . One of their guy-friends leans over and I of course make friends with him and asked him as well how do they all know each other and then he says he's a brother . Turned out that all 6 of them are siblings, cool.
I did Is kissing cheating? routine asking guy first about his opinion of course (the other 2 guys weren't even listening to us). Everybody except this one 7.5 brunette said that it was cheating and I busted on her saying "Are You really their sister? " and then a blond next to me said "Why do You ask? Did Your girlfriend kissed another guy?" and I said "Woman, did You even hear me saying that I was talking about my friend? " and then she says "Well, yeah but usually when someone says 'my friend' they talk about themselves" (I remember reading about it somewhere in PUA community and hearing that straight from a girl only approves it ) I defended myself saying "Alright, so next time You'll refer to Your friend I'll know what You mean ". Other highlights of this conversation where when I was guessing where she goes to collage and she said "I'm still in high school. Why do You think I'm in collage? Do I look that old?" to which I replied "If You think that collage students are old... ". We fluff talk for a while and then the conversation subsided a bit and I sat there just leaning back and least having smile on my face.

My friend got back from somewhere (he just wandered off somewhere, he knows lots of people too) and as I was talking to him I see not far from us those 2 girls staring at us so I was just playfully waving at one of her, looking straight at her until she waved me back . My friend walked up to them and it turned out that they know each other . He told me later that this one girl was asking him "Who's this guy with You that was waving me?" . But I never approached. Dunno why, probably got distracted by someone else. Pity though, she was an 8 brunette (and I prefer brunettes over blonds ).

Then I hit the dance floor. One thing I know about dance floor game is to never approach really hot girls with no social proof. Seen too many guys failing this way. So I dance alone a bit surrounded by girls, smiling and singing as loud as I could and just acting like I'm having the time of my life . After a while got few EC and girls trying to catch my attention. So I was playfully dancing with one after another (2 girls, both seemingly older then me, 7-7.5 brunette and a 6.5-7 brunette) arm in arm at first but as the night progressed the 2 of them would just dance in front of me or just lean against my back and that sorta thing. It was fun. Even when one or two guys from their group would start dancing with us I was the center of attention. But I didn't pay lots of attention to only one, always focused on both so they would see that I'm just having fun and not being needy and pushy. Funny thing is that I never actually talked to them throughout the night. We've only see each other on a dance floor and always had fun dancing together. Hell, I didn't mind, whenever I would go dancing I had 2 girls dancing around me, how cool is that?

Every once in a while I would go back to chat up people I know around. At one point some girls just walks to me and my mate and she said something to him and her face seemed familiar to me so as I was sitting down and she was standing over me I said something to her "I think I know You from somewhere but I can't remember from where", she says "Maybe from TV " and I only smiled and pushed her to the dance floor which was just next to us. After couple seconds she comes back saying "Or maybe You know me from You Can Dance " and I said "Oh really? Then show me some moves." and I stood up, walked to the dance floor and pushed her into one guy that seemed like a friend of hers and then returned to my friend .

I got back to my 6-set (well, actually a 4-set since those 2 brothers didn't pay attention to us from the beginning ). But I only saw one guy sitting there (their brother) so I went to befriend him, just in case . I remembered Style's advice about What to talk about with guys? where he said About all the stuff You don't talk about girls . So I just asked the guy what does he do. And I gotta tell You, this one simple question was enough for a long conversation and he already thought I was a cool guy .

Meanwhile I noticed another friend and went to find her to say Hi. Just fluff talk then went back to the dance floor .

Except my 2 "dance floor girls" I saw 2 other girls from that 6-set, sisters. They poked me on the arm so I would notice them . Danced a bit with them and I gotta tell You, I must've looked like THE MAN. Why? 'Cause there I am, standing in the middle of the "sandwich" with 7.5 brunette and 7.5 blond and they didn't really hold back . They just leaned fully on me going up and down... After a while with them blond would playfully push me away to where I only smiled and bounced to the other 2 girls and was doing the same thing . Really had the "no big deal" attitude and didn't take anything personally and that would make them want me more .

One last funny "action" I had was when I was just passing through the dance floor and this blond from a 6-set poked me once, twice... and I poked her back playfully, she was dancing with some tall guy. But then she would poke me back and it wasn't light. We were both laughing at it but the guy had this weird look on his face like he wasn't sure either he should do something or not. So I just told him it's cool 'cause me and her know each other. She says the same thing to him and hugs me. Everything's cool .

There was also this one ex-girlfriend of my mate, got only short introduction before and while I was looking for my friend I approached her from behind, put my hand briefly on her back asking did she see him. But the first thing she said was "Don't touch me" and it wasn't like in a punishing, mean way but very calmly and I just wasn't pushing. In fact I was acting like I didn't notice it all. Still, strange reaction.

As we were finally leaving and my mate was talking to this one girl he liked and he couldn't just stop being pushy I had to help him. He sits with her and her friend in a smoking area and I would just walk up saying how long it will take him and he said something like "She's holding me back" and I said "Oh yeah, I can see it in her eyes. She's a naughty one." she looks at me and laughs and at this point I stack forward saying "Though I really like Your eyes... Especially the left one!", she burst out laughing and repeating it to my mate 'cause he didn't hear me. Then we were just making fun a bit about her left eye .

Then as we were walking out and passing through dance floor I walked up to this one "dance floor girl" give her a short hug from the side and just said to her ear "I'm leaving. Bye " and she'd hold my hand until I was "out of reach" .

We left the place around 1am. Now that I think about it... I think I did talk and made lots of friends in 4 hrs .

What I liked about this night out was that even though only 2 of us went there after first 20-25 mins we would split and hang around club and we were always in a set talking with somebody. My mate's not in all this PUA stuff and he didn't even want me introduce them to people. He only talked with people he knew.

Also I didn't pay attention to IOIs and I usually somehow pick them up as they show up. Just didn't focus on them or even on some #closing. Why? Lately I been having problems with AA and opening sets and put too much pressure on myself when going out (You know "I need to pick up someone, I need to pick up someone...") so this night out was a breakthrough for me I guess. Talked with a lot of people and got into talkative state. In fact, I don't remember having AA when I started talking to first set. Perhaps 'cause my mate kinda opened them and then I took over.

As sorta newbie in field game (though my head is packed with materials) I appreciate any comments and advices. Like, what would You do or what You wouldn't do etc.

Also cheers if anyone manages to read this full report .

Best Regards,
Mav-

Cześć Mav

Ok I read your post, but only because you're Polish

You drink wine and no wódka?

I quote my favorite parts for lazy people:
Can you dance?

I used to take modern dancing classes, not really a stuff to use in clubs but it sure does polish your dancing rhythm. Not so long ago I took like 4-5 classic/latino dance classes. It all somehow pays off a bit.

Anyway, nice to hear from some other Polish guy

But also it makes me wonder, why do you ask?

Mav-

Well I am from Polish blood but I am French.

I thought you got value from dancing and from enjoying yourself. (Also I am a very bad dancer, I am jaleous)

You're the second French guy with Polish roots I came across .

Well yeah, last few outings like this was ruined 'cause I was there to pick up girls and stuff but this time I went out to just have fun. I ENJOYED MYSELF like You said and I think that state of mind just helped me out. Once I started talking to the first set the rest was going quite smoothly. Next time I'll try escalate kino further and see how it goes .

I suggest that You take some latino dance classes. Lately I'm thinking about popping dance style since it can be very effective when You're all by yourself on a dance floor and everyone are looking at You .
I never learned salsa though I know it's rhythm. I was standing there on a dance floor and just heard this salsa-like rhythm so I remember how Lovedrop was showing in Mystery's Vault Session series how he teaches girls to dance salsa.
It's very simple, You put your left foot forward and she's mirroring (ie. her right foot back). Then bring your other leg together. Now You go back with Your right foot and she moves forward with her left. Then tell her to add hips to that. And suddenly You just gotta feel how You wave your hips and do this simple move back and forth with salsa rhythm.
Seriously, I tried that one there just for fun and like a girl or two loved that, they just lined up next to me and just did what I did. Not to mention that shaking Your hips like forces You to actually shake Your ass and, like I said in some other topic on this forum, girls LOVE it .

Take some dancing classes it helps and makes you feel like dancing is a normal thing for You.
Back in prep school I was the one who was so shy to dance. I never even attempted but when I actually tried it few years later it turned out that I'm pretty good at it and just feel it. So You never know You will react when You start dancing .

And if You don't have time etc. to take dancing classes You don't really have to take ones to dance good. Just don't be shy to actually show some energy while You're dancing and don't think if others like it or not. If You'll have this attitude girls usually will like it 'cause You're different than other AFCs .

Gosh, I tend to write long posts lately .

Though I wish there'd be some other people around here that have some interesting advices to share as well.

Mav-

Sorry for the late answer and thanks for the tips.

Maybe you can use your dancing skills to kino your target. Approach outside the dance floor, and if it goes well you lead her to the dance floor "let's dance!"

I should certainly take advantage of that.
Shame that I don't have many occasions to go out with my friends to party and 'cause of all this I don't have much "practice" opportunities.

Great read, I had a few of these breakthrough nights myself, i've been going to my campuses' student bar every tuesday for the late bar night (basically turns into a club) and I have built a MASSIVE social circle, haven't closed in 3 weeks, but i'm not concerned with that right now, I want to have my pick of many many women instead of hooking up with the first woman I see and then disqualifying myself from others. I MYSELF was #-closed by two different girls who I later found out were, roommates, best friends and lived in the same apartment complex as me! I'm known in the party scene in my student apartment complex now, it feels brilliant to be getting somewhere. When I initially came to college I was out of my element because I was very young for a college student (barely 17), but now I'm doing a lot of making up in terms of building a massive social circle full of brilliant people! Keep truckin' man

Yeah, I need to create new social circle.
Lived in Ireland 3 years (Wexford county, Gorey ) and when I moved back to Poland I lost many friends. And those who are around are often busy. But I guess that the hardest part is to start, then it just follows.
Also lack of job at the moment is the pain in the ass! You can't move forward anywhere if You don't have money .
Though breakthrough like that keeps You pumped and going .