Ok so I've been talking to this girl through facebook for the past few months off and on. She was listed as in a relationship a few months ago but recently I guess she's not in one? Anyway she sent me a message on facebook 3 weeks ago saying she was up for chatting/texting anytime. So I asked for her number and she gave it and we been texting the past 3 weeks. She's slow to respond at times. I teased her and was humours with her a lot while texting and she was always saying "haha" and gave lots of s and such and things were going good so I just became more and more of myself since I thought I could start being natural with her. One day I asked her if she was phone shy or something and she said she just prefers texting vs. talking so that's why we never talked on the phone.

Anyway she was in my town this week. On Monday I said we should meet up sometime since she's in town. She said she wasn't sure yet since she might leave early to go the beach with her friends but she'd keep me updated.

She just texted me this on Wednesday.

Her: Hey so I'm staying in the area until Sunday cuz we decided not to go to the beach so if you want to hang out before I head back, let me know "

Date I thought went well, we ate dinner, walked around the mall for a bit then saw a movie. I did kino escalation while hanging out and she was totally into the esp routines. Like "how did you do that!" then during the movie I initiated hand contact and she was cool. However something seemed off, she wasn't in a position where I could easily kiss her. After the movie ended things seemed to have ended quickly and we hugged each other and said goodbye but didn't kiss.

I texted her shortly after asking if I made her uncomfortable or what. She said that I didn't and she had a blast.

Then I asked if she'd like to do this again sometime when she's back in town and she said yes "but as friends"

...................so I got LJBF at the end of the night ....great. Confused

She was very cute and I was really into her. We had so much in common, we were texting for hours the previous night. I just wonder what went wrong. I hate when I fall into oneitis but I know the thing to do is to stop all contact and move on. She lives in my area and will be here all summer. Should I try again in 2 or 3 months? How do I go about doing that?

lmao.... dude she's crazy about you... don't believe the LJBF bullshit. You didn't kiss her she doesn't think you like her, she's trying to reject you to save her own feelings to protect her self.... or she's shit testing you, seeing if you like her enough to keep chasing after her.. if a girl is willing to hang out with you one on one... it's because she can see herself being with you. Take her out again and go for it.

Even if that's all wrong, there's no reason you can't go out with her as friends then escalate kino until suddenly the way your holding each other makes her realize this is more than just friendship.

Yeah, it was weird because I held her hand throughout the movie and there was no resistance but like she didn't lean on me or anything. If she leaned on me I would have gone for the kiss. I made eye contact with her as much as was needed and she laugh and look away if things were quiet. She was nervous at first. I don't know I'm confused but I have to take what she said as what she said. Like after the movie things seemed sorta rushed and before I know it we went our own separate ways. I told her I wish I could see her again before May (next time she's in town) and that I can visit her sometime when I'm at my parents place (2 hours from her school vs 5 form here). But she said the next few weeks will be busy sometime. These were our texts after the date.

Me: Hey I didn't make you feel uncomfortable or anything did I?

Her: no you didn't thanks again for everything

Me: I never got to tell you what I saw on your palm (she kept begging me to then the movie started)

Her: Oh yea I forgot to ask you

Me: Ok I believe you about being comfortable, on a scale of 1-10 how much would you want to see each other again?

Her: Well to be honest I'd love to hangout but just with the intention as being friends if thats cool with you

Me: Yeah I guess I misread you the whole time, yikes

Her: lol i'm hard to read sometimes but I truly had a good time.


And that was that. I'm definitely doing a freeze out. No more talking to her until maybe April or May

I have similar opinion to pleasureseeker. I think it was a shit test just to test how You'd react.
Also the kiss thing... try kissing her on the cheek or forehead before the proper kiss. I slowly gets her used to Your lips touching her face. I'm sure it won't hurt to do that as well.

I think You also screwed up when You showed You don't know what was going on. Asking her did You make her uncomfortable? Wrong IMO. Shows You're insecure. Not confident enough.
Also: Same thing.

If I were You I'd hang out with her more and just forgot whole "friends" stuff. Keep escalating (don't forget to release each kino, it is Your job as a man and helps you to build comfort) and build some sexual tension (good Eye Contact usually is a very good start).

Hope this gives You some idea.

Good Luck,
Mav-

So how should I text her? Since she was the last to text, what should I say? Or should I just wait a few weeks? She just drove back to school today so she will be out of town for a month or so but she will be in my town all summer too.

Basically if what you guys are saying is true (I hope it is) how can I get out of it and how can I repair the AFC damage I did.

I think just hold on for a week and if she won't say something earlier You can send her a text like "I'm on my way to gym. What up, knucklehead? " The thing is, you show that have other things in Your life and also that You don't have much time to text her etc. You're not needy this way and girls hate guys who act needy.

How can You get out? Read my last post. I told You about building kino and sexual tension.

Also, since she's away and all You'll be able to do at the moment is to text (since she doesn't like talk on the phone) check Your PM 'cause I sent You something interesting there that should help You a lot in text game .

Hope it helps,
Mav

Before we said goodbye she said she would be up to being called at times so talking on the phone is not totally off the table.

Also I was thinking what if I ran something like this through texts

Me: Hey can you help me out, I'm talking to this girl and I think she's really into me

ect ect.

Maybe a jealousy routine?

I tried few times mentioning that girls are into me but it seems a bit of a brag. Instead I could say something like "Can't talk right now. Got friends coming over/Got people over." and she can only wonder are there girls, how many, what are they doing over at Your house etc.

If You would ask her for help 'cause a girl's into You... That seems a bit off and not right to me (dunno really why ). In fact, she might find that enjoyable to help You with another girl and make her lose interest You as a potential BF material.
On the other hand I think it's fine to say "ohh, I was only out with girls last night" if she asks you what You were up to. Like You don't pay really much attention that there are other girls, like it's very normal thing for You.
Hope You catch my drift .

Mav-

Alright so I guess all I can do is wait a week, text her funny stuff to keep her on the radar and try another meet up sometime?

Alright I'm just going to send this in response:

"Yeah same here, I'm not sure your even my type but you're nice girl and you'll make a good friend "

Haha were you reading any of the advice on here? Don't text that, that just reenforces that you are down being friends. I've made that mistake before and girls get all stoked on it, because even if they are attracted to the guy if he questions shit and is a little insecure that spark is still there, but just in a more friend way.

You have to recover a bit from when you second guessed how that date went, that was your fatal move right there. It can be salvaged tho my friend.

In my opinion asking if you made her unconfortable is a mayor DLV, try to remember next time.

I wouldnt say anything at all, let her cold a bit and if she bring the subject do some C&F, and just ignore her

oops too late She hasn't text back though. I figure I'll just leave her cold for a few weeks then text her something funny.

Although I thought it made sense to send that because lets say this little "date" we went on was just to stroke her ego or something and she thought she had me as an "option" . If I then tell her she wasn't my type or she thought she was but turned me down ect. she might find me more of a challenge again or at least ask "what kind of girls are your type ect." . Then again I don't know. She hasn't responded though


So I guess this one is over or what kind of text should I send in a week or 2 weeks?

I don't think that's bad. I try to tell girls in club something along these lines quite often as a way to make them qualify themselves for me. Like the other night girl just suggests me that I like her and I just playfully said "Well... I wish You'd be taller. Somehow I got a thing for tall girls ".
I think this text is good, it's playful and could maybe feel her bit embarrassed that she thought he wanted something more and now he send mixed signal . I think it's good .
It's not written in a insecure way.

I see other guy agree with me that when You started questioning date (asking was she uncomfortable etc.) that was the fatal point. It really showed You're insecure.

There are few rules about text game.
Don't send her second text in 48hrs if she's not replying straight away. And also if she just still won't reply wait least 5 more DAYS if You're gonna proceed and start over. This won't make You look needy and will make her feel that You got other things running in Your life .

Mav-

Thanks Mav, so lets say she doesn't respond and I send her another text 5 days later, and no response. So I can keep sending a text every 5 days without appearing needy even if it adds up to 5 or so in a row (over 5 weeks) with no response? Of course I'd try to be as random and funny as possible to get a response.