Ive read some posts about this, but i dont really know how to deal with it:

Women that show no initiative.

Going out for about a month now. Everything I propose is ok and she always answers but not on a single occasion has she shown any initiative (can I come over ? => yes; but never ever would you like to come over?). She's really putting herself in the prizeposition and is putting in no effort herself.

I'm assuming these are some kind of female tests, cause i know she's in to me. I really like her, but i hate this kind of crap (it feels like one-way traffic). I'm considering a few options here, any thoughts?

=> return the favor and go into ignore mode myself
=> keep being busy myself and send in an occasional text message, but i wonder if these things ever change over time.
=> talk about it (=> put in some effort or get out?)


help?

She's got you by the balls 'cause she knows you'll keep coming back to her.

I'm suffering from the same situation. I always have to go out of my way to ask her what's happening and whether she wants to hang out or go somewhere. Not ONCE has she bothered initiating.

I've decided to sack it off and ignore her. Deleted her off facebook, msn and other stuff and want to see if she'll bother saying something. If she doesn't then I'm glad I won't be wasting my time over such a b*tch.

I just had this weird rule (probably from reading David's newsletter) that whenever I think I'm trying TOO HARD and initiating things all by myself I think to myself that's what every other AFC does. Acts needy and pushes and thinks that if I call her more often or take her out more often that'll make her like me more and that is such a BULLSHIT. If You think You're acting needy and turning into a WUSS start seeing her half as often and call her twice as less.

The thing is, if she got used to You calling her always etc. you're acting submissive IMO.

Like David DeAngelo says:
"Give her the gift of missing You."

@darrryll
or you could twist things around. Ask her things like "Are you free now?/Do You have time?" etc. and she replies that she's available then just ask her "cool, Why won't you invite me over then ?"

Also, start seeing other girls. Jealousy is a POWERFUL emotion and girls often won't realize they're attracted to a guy until they feel jealousy. They're also very competitive so if she knows she not the only one around you that should make her work a bit more for Your attention.

That's what I'd do if I were in Your situation.

Good Luck
Mav-

thx for the advice, think ill just call up some old female friends and see how that works out.

Think there is any hope for this situation?