| Remember....a guy often enjoys the 'visual' part of sex....the woman enjoys the emotional or mental aspect.
This is key when trying to turn her on --- dont do what YOU think may work or help, because she is not looking forward to all the visual ideas that you may think of.
The best way is to make her feel pampered. Do you two live together? Any Kids? Do you have your own place or her place ... or are parent's houses involved?
If you have your own space....something as simple as lighting candles, soft music and some massage oil is all you may need. Just take her by the hand and walk her into the room---tell her that you know she has had a rough (day, week, etc) and that you wanted to give her a lil gift. it would be ideal if you KNEW how to massage (you can look a few things up online---cause you dont want to hurt her!!!!) but even if you dont do that...make sure you are just gentle and rub a bit (dont try to find problem areas too much and work them out unless u know what you are doing). you dont need her totally naked, but if you use oil rather than just your hand, place a towel on the bed for her to lay on....if you want her naked, then provide another towel on top and ask her to undress (as you leave) and to place the towel over her when she is done.
this way you can fold back the top to do the upper body...and you can fold up the bottom to do her legs.....this is NOT meant for you to get sexual about--its meant for HER enjoyment and relaxation. dont try to be sexy with your hands or brush over her -- act like a pro!!! BUT, when a woman has the chance to relax and let her guard down and not worry -- she is much more open to sexual acts (ask any married guy with kids and he will tell you that something as simple as doing the laundry can get his wife in the mood beacuse she no longer has to worry about that aspect and it frees up some time in her mind -- letting those sexual thoughts enter) .... something to note, dont spend too long with this, because if you are any good at giving a massage and you take too long (30-60 min) ... you may relax her so much that she falls asleep or just wants to fall asleep (that isnt your goal)...and of course, if you ARENT very good, in 30+ min you may get too tired and or/hurt your hands......so go soft, go slow, read up on HOW to do it....and after a bit of time you can slowly introduce something sexual...but keep it away from her private areas -- use things such as: soft whispers in her ear, or slight blowing......as her head is turned to the side you can kiss her chek and even kiss the sides of her lips/mouth (that will give you good direction as to how horny she is)....dont go crazy and kiss her alll over...but maybe once softly on her jawline and then once on the side of her lips......if she kisses back (or even better, if she turns her head/body), then you know she is in the mood. if she just softly kisses back and lays flat, then you should keep going (or youve gone too far)
this is just one idea of course....i dont know anything aobut you (and nothing about her) so i cant be more specific.....sometimes a girl just enjoys a soft whisper in her ear....some girls just enjoy if you deny them sex (some girls hate this)...so, i can offer more help (if u want) if you share more info (feel free to private message me too if youd rather not share with the public).
hope this idea helps!!! and make sure you let us/me know how it goes!!
p.s. massaging her arms/shoulders and hands are all great areas that often get overlooked.....feet are great too, but if you dont know what you are doing you can cause her to laugh and wiggle (not relaxing) so avoid them unless you know what you are doing.
all the best luck!
Cheers.
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