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PostPosted: Wed Mar 02, 2011 2:27 pm 
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I need advice on what to do for my next move.

The story is last week I asked a girl that I knew from school out for a drink that weekend on facebook. I am aware that calling would have been better,but i never got her number when I spoke to her in person,so Im working with what ive got. She messaged me back saying that she cant, she had plans that weekend(she actually had specific plans,but i dont remember what they were), she said maybe another time.

Fast forward to this week,messaged her asking again if she wanted to have a drink. She responded that she couldnt again,because she had a friends bachlorette party.

I basically need a thrid party opinion on what i should do next. I dont think im getting blown off,but I do think im getting the run around. Should i try one more time or just take the hint and cut my losses?


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PostPosted: Wed Mar 02, 2011 3:57 pm 
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I need advice on what to do for my next move.

The story is last week I asked a girl that I knew from school out for a drink that weekend on facebook. I am aware that calling would have been better,but i never got her number when I spoke to her in person,so Im working with what ive got. She messaged me back saying that she cant, she had plans that weekend(she actually had specific plans,but i dont remember what they were), she said maybe another time.

Fast forward to this week,messaged her asking again if she wanted to have a drink. She responded that she couldnt again,because she had a friends bachlorette party.

I basically need a thrid party opinion on what i should do next. I dont think im getting blown off,but I do think im getting the run around. Should i try one more time or just take the hint and cut my losses?
When she says "I have other plans" say "What other days might be better for you? Maybe we can find a time that is more convenient for both of us."

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PostPosted: Thu Mar 03, 2011 4:03 am 
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fuck......yeah,I sent a reply saying maybe another time.But my question is should I just cut my loses or try it one more time?


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PostPosted: Thu Mar 03, 2011 4:00 pm 
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let her come to you.

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PostPosted: Thu Mar 03, 2011 7:00 pm 
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alright,but from an outside opinion,does it seem like she's interested? since she hasnt given me the offical brushoff or just hoping I go away? I hate to be annyoing with this question,but as an AFC i dont know the difference


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I am AFC and obviously haven't seen her live but from the little information you have shared I haven't noticed any IOIs from her.

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fuck......yeah,I sent a reply saying maybe another time.But my question is should I just cut my loses or try it one more time?
This is an okay thing to say, but you never got her to commit to anything. "other plans" is a simple objection. If she is not interested you need to isolate that as the objection by removing every other possibility. but do it PUA style not sales style.

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I need advice on what to do for my next move.

The story is last week I asked a girl that I knew from school out for a drink that weekend on facebook. I am aware that calling would have been better,but i never got her number when I spoke to her in person,so Im working with what ive got. She messaged me back saying that she cant, she had plans that weekend(she actually had specific plans,but i dont remember what they were), she said maybe another time.

Fast forward to this week,messaged her asking again if she wanted to have a drink. She responded that she couldnt again,because she had a friends bachlorette party.

I basically need a thrid party opinion on what i should do next. I dont think im getting blown off,but I do think im getting the run around. Should i try one more time or just take the hint and cut my losses?
When she says "I have other plans" say "What other days might be better for you? Maybe we can find a time that is more convenient for both of us."
Yea I'd try this... and if she goes something along the lines of: "I dunno, we'll see... I'll get back to you" or anything a long the lines of not making concrete plans then I'd just take a hint. She's not interested, but doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

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PostPosted: Fri Mar 04, 2011 3:45 am 
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Alright,so i should try again......but as Jits138 said
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do it PUA style not sales style.
so I at least know without a shadow of a doubt that shes not interested.Sounds like an idea.

Please feel free to smack some digital sense into me if i sound deluded.


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