Hey guys,

I just wanted to say hi to everyone who visits these boards.

A quick overview for me would be the following:

* I've had very little success with women, because I've been too scared to try.
* The few times I have tried (normally when drunk), I've pulled it off.
* Had one serious relationship
*Spent the last year or so in a rut, not going out or approaching women.

Anyway, I'm going to be moving to a different country in a few months time, so I've decided that I'm not going to waste another second of my life being scared or feeling inadequate.

I have got a few books/e-books etc and have already started learning a lot from the likes of Neil Strauss and Mystery etc.

Right now I am trying to get a good solid overview of this stuff in my head, but this weekend I am playing on going into the field and trying this stuff out. It will be terrifying at first, but I know I need to do this.

I am going to start frequenting this board a lot from now on, as a place to learn, socialise and interact with people on the same path. I want to master this stuff and become a pro and would love your help to get there.

I want to start with a gift... Now, this may be a good gift, it may be a bad gift, I'm not sure, because I havent tried it out yet, but anyways, this is an opener that I came up with tonight and it would be great to get your opinion on it:

Me:
Hey! I can only stay for a minute, but I've got this problem that I think you guys, as a group, will be able to help me with, okay?

Group:
Okay...

Me:
Okay, cool! Well, last night, my best friends girlfriend came over to my apartment
out the blue, and all upset. She said she had come to me, because she felt like she needed someone to talk to, and who could protect her, right?

Group:
Right.

Me:
So straight away I'm thinking that my best friend has hit her or something, right?
But that doesnt make sense, because she hasnt got a mark on her...
Anyway, we sit down and she starts to tell me what happened... Turns out, she had just caught my best friend, pleasuring himself, with her dildo...

Group:
Laughs/groans/yucks out

Me:
Now, that situation is already fucked up, but she then tells me that she trusts me and asks me not to let him know, that I know. So now, I'm just going nuts thinking about this thing! What should I do? Do I tell him I know? Do I just try and forget it when he's around? What?

Group:
Start giving their opinions

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*Once everybody has given their opinions*
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Me:
Okay, cool. I think I'm going to try and forget this thing. I care about them both, you know? So I don't want to break her trust, and I don't want to embarass my friend any more either. Awesome, you guys have been great, thank you so much.

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*Go to walk away, but then back to them*
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Me:
By the way, how do you guys all know each other?

hey bud,

Mystery and Style are good, but their books and tips are about what work for THEM. Yes, they techniques they use are bulletproof, but they know who they are, they trust themselves to make the best of ANY situation. They know that if things become awkward, they can walk away, change it, make people laugh or open up.

I believe that Inner Game, is much more important than the most popular or well hidden technique available. If you don't trust or believe in yourself...you're fuck with even the best material money can buy. Go watch Kung Fu Panda... you have to realize what he realizes with the 'dragon scroll'.

Spend time on the forums, spend time in the books, spend time observing situations. Get to know yourself. Those things give you confidence.

Go get David De Angelo's Advanced Series. Its lots of psychology, lots of exercises, lots of inner game. Very eye opening and... interesting.

As for the opener. It could work. but would you be congruent...would they be interested or would they say "wtf, you have wierd friends, who do you hang out with!". So go field test it, believe what you're saying though, as if it JUST happened. Don't face them. Drop a false time constraint. Rock on your feet as you reach your conclusion. Look/pretend interested when you ask how they know each other.

Good luck bro,
Guru

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Welcome to my reality ~ DeAngelo