Today I went to a local church with the intent of socializing. I just wanted to talk to people and put myself out there. No PU, not that there was any HBs there anyway. I then went to my school library to meet with a partner. I saw this HB8 sitting in the lobby area and I locked eye contact with her as soon as I saw her. I walked up.
Me: Hi!
HB: Hi!
Me: How are you doing?
HB: Good, you?
Me: Good, I'd be a lot better if I could find my partner
HB: *giggle* (I begin to call my partner)
Me: Where you at?
Phone: On the side with the windows.
Me: All the sides have windows...
(better directions follow, I hang up)
Me: The guy says the side with the windows.
HB: *laugh* That really narrows it down!
I walk away and meet up with my partner but I want to go get this girls number so I go to walk up. I immediately get AA (she can't se me) I got get some water, slap myself in the face (figuratively), and go back to her. This time I kneel down and get eye level.
Me: Well I found my partner but you're still here. Who you waiting on.
HB: I'm (blah blah blah)
Me: Hi, I'm Jay. (Give out hand and we shake)
HB: I'm (blah)
Me: So just hanging out in the library on Sunday?
HB: Yeah.
Me: Are you usually this boring on Sunday or do you have other stuff you do?
HB: *laugh* No! I'm not usually this boring.
(I get nervous at this point, break eye contact and then look back, and definitely don't DHV.)
Me: So, uh, why don't you give me your number?
HB: Um (hesitation), how about facebook, do you have facebook?
Me: Yeah, how should I spell your name (I had forgotten already lol, need to work on that).
She tells me, I shake her hand again and tell her it was nice to meet her and I walk off to get my project done. Sent her a friend request on FB about an hour later and she accepted, though she does have a boyfriend.

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I decided to message this girl and get her opinion about being approached. Here are the questions I asked and her answers.

1) How often would you say you're approached by strangers wanting to conversate? Of these what % are men?
In a library I don’t really remember it ever happening. A bar once a month at least. 100% are men.

2) How did you feel when I approached and started conversation. (The 2nd time, after I found my friend.)
Confused on why you came back
During the conversation?
I tried to think of what to say to you asking for my number and my answer of how about you facebook me I hoped that wouldn’t get me in trouble with my bf
After we finished talking?
I don’t think I felt anything

3) What was your initial impression of me?
Nice that you asked how I was doing
Afterwards?
I didn’t really have a lasting impression of you. Your friend saying he was by the windows made me laugh because of how specific he could be in a building with windows on all sides.
Did your view of the situation change once I asked for your phone number? If so, how?
Not really because I wasn’t giving you that.

I thought the feedback was great. I'd like to be more memorable I guess, I should work on that.

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Went to the mall today to just go around and be social. I just had breakfast and a haircut so I felt pretty good.
My goals were to be smiling and engage anyone who locked eye contact with me.

First thing I did upon entering through the Barnes & Noble was lock eyes with a store clerk (HB6). She was like a deer in headlights and didn't look away until another customer came up and asked her for help. It made me chuckle and boosted my ego as I continued through the store.

I then stopped at the Buckle, there were two HBs, 6 and 7, working there. They work somewhat on commission and were throwing compliments and clothes at me left and right. I let it all roll off. I was interested in hearing them talk about current trends and what they thought was cool now.

Talked with an art store owner about a print I was looking for. Actually found something even better so that kept the smile on my face.

I've noticed that a lot of people walk around looking at their cellphones which to me is preposterous now. You're walking past so many people! Engage them! Anyway, I got a lot of smiles back and several "hi"s. I had things to do so I left having a nice walk through.

The good: My AA is quickly vanishing and that doesn't surprise me. I've always been a very funny and a social person, but within a pseudo-controlled environment (high school, Marine Corps).

The bad: I hesitate, a lot. I'll admit that I'm dealing with a good deal of depression that stems from a loss of a friend I felt responsible for. I've made great strides in dealing with this but one of the effects it has had on me is that I doubt myself and over analyze situations. Just takes time I suppose.

Other then that I have been working out a lot and a lot of my friends have complimented me on looking great. I have all the pieces it seems now, all there is left to do is get to Carnegie Hall.

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I was an usher in my friends wedding. I was showing girls to their seats at the ceremony and really didn't see anybody I wanted to sarge. I hadn't planned on it anyway, I really just wanted to have a great time and dance, which I did. At the reception, and after some drinking on the wedding party party bus, I was shown a single HB8 at another table. I was called up to the front with the rest of the wedding party and the DJ told everyone to take someone out on the dance floor. I went right up to the HB8.
Me: Sorry to to interrupt (she was convo'ing), but you need to come with me.
HB: Oh, ok. (Takes my hand and follows.)

We dance, small talk, I continuously make eye contact with her. The dance ends and I tell her I'll see her later. She smiles and says "Ok, good."

I go mingle, we group serenade the bride, do the bouquet and garter, and have cake handed out. I go grab one of the cake girls, kinda cute, tell her to put her cake down and come dance, and finish a dance with her. This apparently blew her mind and immediately told her friends about me. One of them was the girl who told me about her in the first place and she came to let me know. I quickly forgot about her.

Then enters HB8's socialite of a best friend. She had apparently gotten word of me and tried running the show the rest of the night.

First, I go ask HB8 to come with me outside for some fresh air. She said she just came back in with her friend and then preceded to introduce me. Her friend tells us to finish our drinks and go dance which we do. (I supplicated.)
We dance and talk some more with more eye contact. I have her laughing. We end the dance and I go mingle again. I see her off in a side hallway and start talking with her alone. 15 seconds after I get there her friend walks out of the bathroom and drags us back to the dance floor. We dance and this time is seems like she's really into me. Then the DJ comes up from behind me and throws a hat on me and some other groomsman. We're pretty much coerced into performing YMCA. I was buzzing so I gave in. The girl ran off though wanting nothing to do with being near the center of attention.

More dancing, mingling. I go outside to cool off and speak with my buddy. As I'm walking in the best friend comes up and gives me a paper from HB8, phone number and email. I'm thinking sweet, but I wish it had come from her. I find her at a table surrounded by old high school friends and family. She's getting ready to go. I kino her one last time on the arm, tell her I had a great time. She asked if I got the paper and I said yes. She said it was nice meeting me and she went on her way, with her parents who were there. She was in her early 20's by the way.

Haha, so I do what any good AFC would do and texted her an hour later telling her we should get together the next day. She doesn't text back until the next morning. I also FB friended her after a bunch of people were FB friending me all day.

10AM HBtext: I'm assuming by the vagueness of this text that this is my dancing partner. Today isn't good, maybe when you come back into town.
11AM me: Only if this is my auditor girl from last night. (c&f fail haha)
6PM me: Where we dancing this weekend? I'm coming back in and hitting the city. I want to take you with.
3 days later: Hey, sorry, I ran out of texts. I'm not interested, sorry, but thanks for the fun time!
~End of communique~

I did a lot of things wrong I know but I'd like to hear some other's thoughts on this.

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