I have had an on-off relationship with someone for a while (currently off!)... But I don't want this anymore. However, I still want to hang out with her for walks in the summer, and occasional fun, because we get on well together.

She has been the one to end the relationship most times. We split up for 5 or 6 months, then she starts getting friendly again, and the cycle repeats.

Is it OK to still do this stuff with someone I've had a past with, as long as I still keep sarging and seeing other women? I do enjoy it.

If it is OK, what's the best way to go about it... i.e. what and what not to do in this situation?

Cheers

Zan

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This kind of depends on your desire. From what I gather, you seem to want the best of both worlds, or "have your cake and eat it also".

Do you think you are starting to get oneitis? If you really like this girl, there is nothing wrong with making that clear, but ONLY if you intend to follow your words with your action. Make sure it is not just the sex that is driving the relationship.

As for advice, a lot of this is on you. I would suggest giving her the freeze out routine, and make her be the one to come to you, and more than once. This time, do not be so accessible. In fact, depending on what kind of woman she is, you may want to say, "I am in a casual relationship with another woman right now." The jealousy routine in these situations always seems to work.

Best of luck!

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@Sinergy-Good advise.

You made a good point too about ZannyUK wanting his cake and eat it too.

@ZannyUK-Im currently going through this.

In fact,I dont even know if t call this girl my ex or gf since it's always off & on(the LTR).

Right now,it's off as of 3 days ago.

I use that as time to sarge and game on.

As with you,she's always the one to end it,then re-initiate the LTR,then get upset with me for gaming other girls(lol).

I dont know what to advise you with here(since Im going through identical stuff).

Sinergy's insight was good though.

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I don`t think you should stay that close with your ex. If you guys broke up and you are still wining and dinning the girl, then its not really a break up. A lot of times guys use the buddy after the break up role as a tactic to prevent the girl from moving on too quickly. Guys tend to get really offended if the girl hooks up with another guy before they get another chick. is this what is going on with you?

Cheers guys.

Cool advice and insight so far. Funny how things are similar between you and me k-loc!

I suppose I have a bit of Oneitis for this girl... But I like to hang out with her and we always have a laugh when pairing up in Yoga (where we met). It's certainly not purely for sex, so I'm not using her in that way. I'm not spending much cash either.. Don't think she expects me to. It's almost like we're Friends with benefits.. who drift apart every-so-often.

I see her every week in Yoga.. so a freeze out is hard to do.

I guess my real question is this... Is it OK to get back with her and have a good time together, but at the same time continue getting better at the game? I suppose we're using each other!

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@Mr.Amazing-Lol,You alway manage to see through situations.

I think your psychic(lol).

I roke up with me gf,and you already know my situation Mr.Amazing.

I still talk with me ex.

In fact,we still hang out up to last night.

It's sought of like trying to prevent her from moving on while we move on yet still have control of the ex.

God point Mr.Amazing.

@ZannyUK-Yea we definitely going through same thing.

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dude you can have what you want when you want it just be open with the women in ur life and it will be alright,

@Maull3r-I agree with you.

A while ago,I ran across a podcast with Savoy of Love Systems talking about LTR management.

He basically said the same thing you're saying:be straight up with girls from the start,and you'll be surprise at how willing the girls are to go along with the guy's frame.

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Thanks all! That's the sort of stuff I was looking for... It's great to have you people here to discuss these things with

Zan

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