| So one late evening my friend sends me over a copy of "The Game" by Neil Strauss. Now I've always considered my game to be OK, I mean I have a few girls that I have been stringing along but not anything that would actually be worth while sleeping with. I was pessimistic as hell while reading The Game- at first I was completely disgusted but mostly dishearted, which was mainly because the more I read it, the more I realized that I was an AFC with no game whatsoever.
After finishing it, I just had to go out and feild test this shit to see if it actually works. Now I am a guy that definitely doesn't lack self esteem, but my confidence is something that I've always had to work on, especially when it comes to approaching women. In saying that, I really get a kick when it comes to pushing boundaries of my comfort from experience the rewards are often worth it
So onto the field report:
My first set was a complete blow out on my behalf. I walk up to the bar to get myself a drink strategically placing myself next to these two nice girls. Now here's were I first fucked up- really guys the 3 second rule exists for a reasons- to stop us from procrastinating about all the bad shit that could possibly happen from saying "hii". After about a minute of shitting myself I finally worked up the courage to open with the "OMG did you guys see that fight outside?" routine. It worked great, the girl was genuinely interested and even laughed a bit. Now comes fuck up number 2- I was so nervous that I mistakenly opened to the hotter one of the two cause she was closer, isolating the grenade. This would come back to get me. Next, I ran the "London handshake" routine which again worked really well, it even caught the attention of her friend that was previously ignoring me. Just when I though it was getting better her friend then tried to reposition herself between the hotter one and myself. Fuck. Cock blocked. I started to panic, trying to search though my head what I could do. This is when I completely fucked it. "Hey, you look like you just turned 18" "No, I'm actually 21" yep... shit...awkward silence. They soon turned their back to me and I retreated in defeat.
I went down stairs to try again. My proximity alert went off when I heard this seductive American voice emminating from behind me (I live in Australia BTW). So I turn to her and say "Hey, is that an American accent I detect"? "(smiles) yeah it is actually" "Awesome!, East coast or West coast"? "East coast, I'm from L.A" Great...this was going well. She even asked me what was the cheapest beer here and I make some stupid jokes about it...I began picking up on some indirect IOIs...I could tell this girl was into me. So I got my drink after she got hers and when I glance back shes still standing there waiting for me. Yep, this was going well. I ran the London handshake routine on her and her friend. They loved it. I started to get the puppy dog bowl look at around this time. But then her two American guy who were over at the poker machines started butting in breaking conversation. Great, another cock block. I hadn't opened to the group cause I though it was just her and her friend but now shes got who other guys who had there back turned to me playing the pokies. Fuck. I tried opening to the least opening guy asking it he was american (dumb question) and I fluffed on a bit in vain. I could detect in there voice that they weren't buying it. Eventually they got and the guys ordered the girls to go over there. Again, defeated, I walked off. Not opening to the group and winning over the men is definitely a recipe for failure. Time constraint would of helped here but I forgot in my panic.
Thankfully I had organized a bounce back girl for the night so I just found her and continued to dirty dance and make out- talk about instant emotional recovery!. So yeah first night out using game tactics ended pretty poorly but the weirdest thing is, I don't feel bad about failing at all- I actually feel kinda good. I recon this is because I know exactly when and where I fucked up whereas before when I was AFC, I would have no idea why girls would walk away which would make me extremely frustrated and angry. I actually want to get back out there and go again, this time not making the mistakes that I am now fully aware of. I gotta say,The Game, Love systems and these forums have completely changed my outlook on picking up girls for the better. In short, they have conquered my HUGE fear of rejection, hell I got denied twice tonight but because I'm so consciously aware of why it happened, it just doesn't phase me at all. I see them as experiences to learn and grow from whereas before I would see them as just straight up rejection because they either didn't like the look of me or were just out to reject guys which is really just a crock of shit that my mind had created in its own negative way.
So yeah, sorry for rambling but I just felt compelled to share my experiences with you guys.
Peace!
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