I wonder if anybody knows of some kind of "taking things slowly" tactics.

Saying from the beginning. Tried as usually, failed(my game was pretty bad back then), now got the second chance(with the same girl). Thinking about taking things slowly this time. (only a mad man does the same thing and expects a different outcome)

Any basic guidelines and differences from normal pickup??

I'm absolutely lacking any relationships experience.

I'm not sure what your asking. When it comes to relationships it's not about tricks or tactics. It's a relationship, not Call of Duty. Start with being more real.

You want to take it slow with a girl. Don't sleep with her on the first date. Take it slow. Keep the tension going but do real things with her.

It's smart of you to take some time to actually get to know her if your interested in a relationship. Look for signs if has serious issues and if there is real compatibility, be honest with yourself about whats going on and be honest with her.

Without nothing to much about you thats all I can really say.

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As a general idea in PUA, I'd recommend not at all taking it slow, and shooting for a full close as soon as possible.

However, there is one strategy that you can use with "taking it slow."

If done correctly you can refrain from going for a k-close or any sort of escalation, and effectively amplify the sexual tension. Once you do start escalating for the first time, you go for a full close and the sex will be much better than if you had done it on the first date.

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I've been doing this approach for a bit now and I would say it does work.

I don't go for any kind of proper kino or kissing until I'm actually back at mine. I think it works pretty well.

As for taking things slowly, if you want to wait until date 2 or even 3, then by all means if that's what YOU want to do. Any longer than that, and the girl will definitely think you're scared or something's wrong or she's not hot enough etc and start to lose interest or avoid you.

My general rule is - you have far more to lose by NOT escalating quick enough, than you do by escalating too quickly for her.

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decided.
Going natural.

the situation is a bit complicated(with her long-term long-distance bf)

100% trust myself, see where it gets me.

Basic outline as in "My method". Also will try to adjust to situation.

Keeping too many opinions in my head screwed me up few times.

Good luck to me.

Will be updating.

so she is already in a long-term relationship?

@mack-yes. also she is chinese and 5 years older than me(her bf is chinese too and also older than me)

I know I shouldn't get into people's relationships. I'm not going to. I'm just going to be by her side always doing some fun staff and having great time(playing other girls etc) If she gets tired of her current relationship and decides to break-up-good, if not, at least I'll have a very intelligent friend.

I'm not gonna use any "bf-destroyers" and other staff. Although I really like the girl.

Although its hard to call a real relationship. She told me that she's with him because "she understands how much he cherishes her." Never ever told me that she loves him. Doesn't mention him at all.( I accidentally found out during the truths game) Doesn't even have a relationship status on fb. I believe he is one big AFC, but anyways, if she is happy with her current relationship, who am I to try to break them up?

I'm just gonna provide an alternative.

does it give you pause that she is in a long term relationship, and continues to be, while showing through multiple mediums of communication that she isn't in love with him?

i know this isn't what you were looking for and is off-topic, so hope that doesn't offend you, it's just my cynical stream of consciousness flowing.

there are few things that spook me more, personally, than women who "fall out of love" and yet continue the charade. to what end? for what purpose or benefit?

it would give 'me' pause.

good luck to you though...

I have belief that it can be for one of the following reasons:

It's because girls(as everybody) want to be loved. Being loved feels good. (Both ways feels better though) May be she's afraid that she won't be able to find someone better(in this case I have good chances). 2nd option-got used to being with him.-habit.(then I'm fucked lol) There can be some other reasons I'm not aware of. I think she said that she broke-up with him for another guy, but then came back to him and he accepted her or cheated on him(without having sex-make-outs???) i don't remember really. idk.

She's kinda traditional girl that might be a problem, but I kinda like when girl plays hard to get. (challenge is good) i wouldn't be dealing with all this pain-in-the-butt if I didn't like her a lot. I'll see where I can take it.