I am a Junior in high school and i have been talking to this girl for about 1 month and we have only hung out a few times because she has a very busy schedule. I also go to the gym for about 4-5 hours a day so im busy myself but ive managed to see her once or twice outside school. we always talk in school and laugh and even outside of school our chemistry is great. we have texted and talked on the phone nonstop and we both have feelings for each other. I dont personally like relationships but i want one with her and shes amazing but the only problem is that at least once a weekend she goes to these clubs with some really weird/sketchy guys who some are over 20. she hangs out with these guys over the weekends sometimes and hes always posting shit on her facebook like random hearts and stuff. Its school vacation for us so its the best opportunity for us to get together but i am not sure i even want to bother anymore. I think the guys she hangs with are real weird and personally id fight the one who always sends her hearts cause hes some creep. but whats your opinion? am i being insecure and thinking she is hooking up with all of them or am i right that it is weird shes hanging out with guys that are like 5 years older than her going to clubs?

p.s. shes about a 9 so shes pretty dope but i can get 9's and 10's cause im pretty popular and good looking. i havent said anything to her about this because at first i was like whatever do what you want we arent going out but now im thinking that i have serious feelings for her and i dont want her hooking up with tons of guys especially if i were to go out with her. SUBMIT YOUR OPINIONS PLEASE

You are insecure.

A stupid heart on facebook doesn't mean a shit dude. Its just some guy making fun.

Focus on YOURSELF instead of those random dudes.

Keep on gaming her, if you feel you are going nowhere, next her.

yeah man and it isnt the heart its only facebook but im just saying like she seems to always be with him even though last time we were together she brought him up as her friend "the sweetest guy". i might be insecure cause the last girl i was with always hung out with a friend of mine and i didnt really care but one night she was drunk and blew him and hooked up with him all night. i just dont wanna have that shit happen again

don't think about the past. focus on the future.

game her hard. fuck her good. and you have nothing to worry about.

Be a man. Be tough. You are the king.

And being with the guy doesn't mean anything. i'm with a girl too every day. she is just a friend... i would never consider sleeping with her, neither does she with me.

thanks bro. ill just make sure i see her more, im gettin my car soon so ill definitely be with her more and when we are together we have a great time so itll work

There you go dude! Apocalyptica gave you spot on advice. Who cares about that guy! Show her how amazing you are and she'll forget all about him. You can be her boyfriend and he can keep on being "the sweetest guy" who's getting none

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haha thanks man i appreciate the advice you guys give on this forum.

But if i do keep talking to her to i bring up how i dont like some of the shit she does or do i just let her do her own thing?

don't mention anything !!!!

it's the worst thing you can do...

@Apocalyptica, I would have to disagree with you (on the long run). But you are correct that for the initial seduction, Newguy should not complain about what she is doing because she is not his yet.

NewGuy, first off, you need to go for her. If she is a HB9 as you say, others are persuing her (and that is normal because she is of value). You cannot let others chasing her deter you from your goals (because you clearly want her so dont act like you do not).

About telling her about those things that you do not like her doing. You should not mention them now. You should seduce her first. A real man does not take BullShit that he does not want to from any chick. Make yourself the prize and she will fall for you.

The best way to make her change her negative behavior is to first make her like you and then point to the things that you like (she will conform to that). For instance, you could say how you did not like it that your ex gf went out so much. She will the notice that to be with you, she needs some restraint.

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I totally understand what your saying and i hadn't said anything cause i knew she wasnt mine yet and i didnt want to seem like i was going to tell her what to do and not to do. And yeah i do want her no doubt about it but i dont have to act needy because there are other girls trying to talk to me at the moment too.

The other thing ive been wondering is if it helps to have like deep conversations with girls and by that i mean like if you talk about intentions of going out or other subjects? I usually get girls because im a good flirt through text and face to face but i never usually have deep conversations and im wondering if thats why i have more hook-ups than girlfriends?

That is a great observation that you have done, that is, having deep conversations with a female will indubitably rise the comfort that she has with you and thereby giving you a better opportunity for her to be your gf.

Yet I would advise you to do what you are good at to hook up with her (and have sex with her) before you consider making her your gf. Do not treat her as if she were a prize (not yet) because that will make you lose that value that you hold (giving her the power).

You have the correct tools (sharpened through your past seductions), so use them like before. After some time, then pursue a deep connection with her where you allow her in to know your emotions, show her that she is special to you, and have those deep conversations that you know will deepen that affection she will have for you.

But do so only after you have done what you are already good at because this will give you the position to make her want to be your girl. Until she has that, she will only see you as another guy--when you have sex with her, she is at your will....

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i like your insight man but im wondering that once it is at the point where i have her where i want her what are some good conversation topics that can end up helping transfer her from the hookup to the girlfriend? im sure theres gotta be more than just intentions and feelings. im asking cause i have hooked up with a lot of girls but have only had a few girlfriends which isnt irregular since im only a junior but what topics can you think of?

It sounds like you are fairly confident that you CAN hook-up with this girl (hopefully this is not hubris on your part). But if you can make the hook-up happen, which I find vital to seducing her, then getting her to be your gf should not be too difficult.

I would transition by simply involving her into your life, talking about activities and things that both of you enjoy, talk about things that you know you will have fun with her doing, talk about your passions, etc. That will lead her to think of you as more than a hooking up person.

I would highly motivate you to read one of my posts that discusses investments. If you get her to invest in you enough, she will have no choice but to desire to be your gf. It is natural for that to happen. Let me give you an example. If you ask her out on a date or to wait up on you to call her before she sleeps, if she goes with you on the date or waits up for you then she will rationalize this as likeing you more than a simple hook up. (I explain it much more in detail in one of my prior posts on how to make a girl fall in love.)

Hope this helps

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