I was 32, met a girl online, chatted a few weeks then went out on a date. She was 20 in university. She's one of those goody two shoes girls, works in her church, volunteers, has clean fun, family oriented, white blonde cute but 7.5/10 lookswise. Her goodiness was actually attractive to me. Also the fact I thought she might be a virgin was a bonus.

After our date in which we had coffee, miniputt, and lunch she texts me saying she is glad she met me. I had my emotions in check at this point.

Two weeks later, 2nd date, we go for dinner and a movie. I wasn't feeling a great connection when I dropped her off at home but then she kissed me goodnight and says she wants to take it slow. I tell her I will wait for her to come around. (to be more serious). At this point I've made her my only girl and closed down my online dating profile and she closed hers down a week after me. I believed, wrongly, that we were both emotionally invested in each other. Looking back I was the only one feeling this way.

2 weeks later, 3rd date we go hiking, we were the only ones on the mountain and I could have went for a kiss as we held arms but I decided to show restraint and we had a good time. After the date she said she felt bad that she wasn't good company. I assured her she was.

A week later I tried to set something up with her but she tells me over the phone that I'm older, she's leaving the city next year, that I want a relationship but she can't provide it for me. Everything she said was true. But why'd she kiss me? Was it because I spent $200 on dinner? Did she just want to know what my succulent lips taste like?

All I know is that that kiss gave me Oneitis. I'm still thinking about this girl, but the only communication I had after our last talk was an email (stupid I know) that I sent 4 days after saying that I valued her friendship and if ever she needed a friend I'd be there for her. It's been a month now, and I'm doing aiight.

I just wanted to warn pple about the lethality of women's lips. Both sets of lips.

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Hope you can get over her soon.

$200 dinner?! OUCH

Dude, you showed serious AFC behavior, no doubt about it. You got to escalate! Third date and didn't even kiss, that is horrible. I think, she wouldn't have left you, if you had escalate. Being sexual is nothing to be ashamed of. She wanted to go to the next level (That is why she mentioned if she is not fun enough after hiking episode). You should have escalated and blown off rather than playing it safe and think about it later about your mistakes.

Things come to those, who are ready to lose and puts everything on the line!

Say NEXT and move on. Be better next time. All the best!

My 2 cents.

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See, ya are what ya are in this world. That's either one of two things: Either you're somebody, or you ain't nobody.

I know man! This was a total fk up on my part. I had too much time on my hands and did not keep myself occupied with other things, and other women. Lesson learned.

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