I've been talking to this girl for a real long time. i've been real confident, throwing negs all the time since she's really hot. but as much as i did those right things i made some real bad AFC moves, i just let go of anything i learned. First i would compliment her, not all the time but i did. 2 i told her i like her, but in a way that was confusing and not relyable. 3 which is the worst, for valentines day i bought her a build a bear with a necklace on it. finally today i told her that i liked her but she was to flirty just like me. How do i dig my self out of this one !? Please help Me ! I know it's hard to get out of a LJBF but any advice would help !

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I'm only 16 but hopefully this helps !

1. compliment is a form of statement of interest. Occasionally that's good.
2. Frame it like "I've got this feeling and I don't know why, but I'm drawn to you. what are you doing to me?"
3. that's supplication, bad

Back off for a while and restart in a week or so. Try to ignore her for that time

drop everything do not call let her do it all start over in a week.. if u see her calling a lot and iming you then you know shes interested.. but dont look afc. revert the power to you.

From personal experience,I would not ignore her 1 week.
As a matter a fact,I don't really understand what is your problem.Did you try to escalate and it did not work ?

Yeah i was trying to say i wanted to be more than friends but i could feel she didn't have the same feeling. she says she likes just flirting around.

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I'm only 16 but hopefully this helps !

What do i do after a week ?!?!

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I'm only 16 but hopefully this helps !

How far have you escalated?

Always look for and take the opportunities to kino and stuff like that.

Since she's more of a flirty type, you have to make sure you don't fall into the AFC nice-guy trap, and you should always push/pull and tease/neg, that kinda stuff. Just be cocky/funny and always remember to be an alpha instead of an AFC.

Also watch out for shit tests and stuff. For instance, if she says, "I think you like me!", instead of being an AFC and conceding, reply with something like "Well, I'd say it seems that [i]you[/i] like me."

I have tried two patterns to communicate this in the past the first honesty tell how I felt in person or through a letter --> AFC way, but respectable I thought at the time. The girl didn't even care to respond back. And in the other case I got a no.

Second (that partly worked),
I told her I have a date (I actually did ), what should I wear and discussed those ideas. Things suddenly changed, she started calling me often... wanted to hangout wi me. I think she felt something that belonged to her is going away. Eventually I ended up screwing up my personal life by messing it up. But moral from the learning is if you have to get to her, make her believe that she is losing focus and doens't get the priority anymore. Now if you are at luck, you ll have her feel the same way my Lindz did. And that is your chance. Then you can think of saying something like that..

Just a thought. Goodluck!
~P

never compliment them
i learned that from gambler =]
and never tell them you like them
WHY? because you always wnt them to keep guessing

Here's some cool advice I can give you about Valentines day.
What to do on V-Day and what to give. NOTHING!!!!!!
No flowers, no teddy bears, no chocolates. And for the love of GOD no fancy car or Limo's.

True Story: I once meet this great couple in a restaurant in Japan using direct approach. I told them honestly that the vibe I was receiving from both of them were very positive and romantic. I said " Are you both engaged or something?" and they were both planning on getting married. I then said " You know whats so foolish about V-Day, is the constant pressure about V-day that you have to give or do something nice to the opposite sex. In reality it's same as saying sorry I was a dick to you the whole year, but for this day i'll be nice." They both obviously in love and both on the same page. Agreed with me, and the guy said, no he haven't bought or gave any chocolate or expensive gifts, but the time they were spending together was whats important. He and his fiancee offered me to sit down with them, and have a conversation. In which they paided for a awesome meal. And said they were really glad I came up and talked to them, and that it was so REAL.

Moral: Don't fall for the traps of societies garbage of social conditioning. She will and appreciate you even more if you just said, lets go hangout and spent some fun time together. Getting her things for V-day may seem like a good excuse to show appreciation. But it's really just social validation which is really just a major DLV.

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