I type this to hopefully keep at least one person from making the mistakes that I now regret.
There's all these parts about game that guys stress about like how to approach, kino escalation/calibration, building rapport, how to close etc. Now don't get me wrong, all of this is very, very vital when it comes to seduction. But one brutally important part of game that I don't see a lot of talk about is how to actually carry yourself and the relationships you put yourself in.

We all got into this whole thing for one reason: to meet amazing women. What our goals are with these women is completely up to us. Maybe we want a solid relationship, a wife, NSA sex, or just to constantly be surrounded by fuck buddies. Regardless of what it is, we all share the one objective of wanting to meet amazing women.

Now with all these relationships with women that you're making, it is your responsibility to take control of each and every single one. If you just want a fuck buddy, lay down the rules from the start. If you actually want to take the relationship further, take control and tell her that you want to see if you can make something out of it. Everything should be in your hands and it's you're responsibility to make sure that the woman isn't left in the dark.

I see so much PUA material out there telling men that there is no such thing as a special snowflake, or that there is nothing special about any particular woman and that they all can be picked up. All of this is very powerful when it comes to boosting your confidence and working on your inner game. But I see many men becoming almost desensitized to the fact that these women are people that we should love and appreciate. They’re people that you actually want to surround yourself with and are just fun to have in your life. They’re the reason you put so much fucking effort into this. You wanted to meet amazing women.

Relationships can be absolutely sabotaged if you don’t take responsibility, be a man, and actually take control of your interactions. However if you do take the time to do this, you will find yourself happier than ever with your entire life as a whole. All this takes is a simple one on one conversation. If you can’t do that with the women you’re seeing, then you’re seeing the wrong women.

Without control of your relationships, you’ll find yourself feeling insecure, stressed and you may end up being hurt in the end. With every pick up comes responsibility. But that feeling of control and soundness with all of your relationships is invaluable. Your life will be happier. And you may not win them all, but deep down you’ll know that you kept the ones that mattered most.

Happy Sarging.

A good post, but the only people who become desensitized to women being people got into PU for the wrong reasons. Can't start generalizing us, now can we?

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Good point thanks. I changed that part.

good post, ive been contemplating whether or not to tell this girl that i dont want any strings attached and now i definitely will

you are so right. i kept saying to this girl "so when are we going to hang out" and we never had so finally i told her "alright im taking control here me and you are going out on Tuesday" and we did. now i always take the lead

I one hundred percent agree with you about taking the lead in situations, both personally and observing i've seen it make or break success, and defining a relationship and your goals is a great way of knowing where your heading.

but when it comes to desensitizing yourself, i think that it has pro's and cons, it really is a grey area rather than something that should be outrightly avoided. i mean, what about the guys who come onto these forums and are new to game that wet themselves when a woman glances at them. personally i think desensitization can be key to success, it's up to your own good judgement on how far to take it, and obviously there are those that take this too far.

I personally believe that there are other ways of getting over your fear of women than desensitizing yourself of the fact that they're people too. From what I've seen, the people that get over their anxiety in nervousness that way have an underlying hate towards women. And they never are really able to appreciate what game does for them. This is all personal opinion though, every man is to his own.