I'm making this post in response to some rather harsh and insulting comments I received in the chat earlier today. I think it comes from an ignorance of the situation I'm in and the way I'm dealing with my problems. I write this post in an attempt, though it may be unsuccessful, to explain the logic behind why I'm doing things the way I'm doing them.

It all started with a chat argument between me and two other gentlemen, the names of which I will not refer to in this post. It was more of an intense debate that ended with me highly upset due to the fact that could not understand the delicate situation at hand. I am trying to kick an addiction, aka masturbation. One of the men did not consider masturbation an addiction, however, I DO! For years I have masturbated for maybe 6 or 7 times a day. It has been a REAL problem for me. I am attempting to kick this habit, so ALL of my focus and energy is going into breaking this one habit. When they gentlemen attempted to give me other things to do, I simply rejected.

I told them simply and starkly, "I Can't DO THIS!" Now I know more veteran members of the forum will say, "Why say can't, why say this why say that?" The truth is a man must know what he's dealing with before he attacks it. I KNOW my limitations and where I have to break them at. I know that when in the past, I get OPTIMISTIC, and I do TOO much shit at once. I will tell ALL the guys in this forum, this is where MOST men fail. MOST men can not do a bunch of shit at a time. Lots of guys try it, lots of guys fail. The reason for this is because most of this stuff is unchartered territory, taking too much on your plate will make you feel overwhelmed and you'll simply say fuck it. This is for the guys like me, who have never finished shit in their lives. This is not for the guys who are used to doing shit, or having been doing shit long before pua. I have not even finished a book, let along conquering an addiction problem.

Because I knew I'd do this if I continued to do too much any longer, I'm staying the fuck away from doing day game, and all that other shit. I’m keeping it simple, doing simple things. Because the primary focus in my life is me, fixing my self, fixing my fucked up social interactions and habits. I know that because in the "I" have done too much and simply said fuck it, that my primary thing is to have "PATIENCE" take my time, and do shit right. I'd rather take two year, be competent, get the women I actually want, and be happy, then go fast, and constantly crash and burn and then at the at of 25 land an hb who is fucking mentally insane and fucked up.

The point of this post is this, don't fucking criticize people for going TOO slow, the truth is doing one thing at a time is what MOST dudes on here need to be doing. They are biting more then they can chew, as a result most give up, fiddle around the fucking bush, or they simply don't even know what the fuck to do next. Working on just one thing, one habit, and one problem at a time actually gives you the ability to work on inner demons. This stuff is really towards newer guys like my self. After all these years I finally understand why I start shit and don't finish. Take your time, don't rush, sometimes things take time. Don't let others rush you.

On a final note, I did take their advice and I am beginning to exercise in place of my masturbation habit. I have never actually completed or beaten something in my life other then a video game. I will make things different this time. This time I will actually conquer my demons and be successful. Things take time; I must have patience and be willing to wait for them. And to those who don't like my methods too bad :/. This is not to say that eventually once you get the inner strength and discipline to do things that you can’t increase the amount of stuff you do. It’s just saying; get to that point before you do too much. Building your way up to doing lots of stuff, nothing happens over night, things take time, and you must be patient, and willing to do things right the first time. Because doing things this way, saves a lot of time in my opinion. Eventually I’ll be doing all sorts of stuff at the same time, balancing everything, but I am proud to say that I am taking my time and doing things right.

six to seven times a day is way excessive. it's good that you've realized that.

at that point, it's not even about enjoyment, it's about OCD and a mental problem.

just from a time perspective, that is way too much time spent dwelling on spanking your monkey. you could be doing other things, exercising, reading, watching a good movie, working a job, hanging with friends.

good luck to you. you have developed a 'mental' addiction to spanking it. i'm willing to bet there are underlying issues like mania or anxiety going on though.