Hey guys, I'm new to this forum and I've been lurking a while. While I don't consider myself a complete newbie to PU's I feel I can learn about what I'm doing wrong by engaging in convo here.

But to my question, I have been reading about "shit test" and on being an "alpha male" but I have trouble distinguishing between being too nice or being mean. For example, I was out at a drive thru movie and at one point I was almost demanded to get some snacks, but I didn't budge with such a statement. But she then changed up the tone to a more anxious (?) tone. She was more like "c'mon you gonna have me sit here and not get anything" and I eventually obliged and got something. I am asking is where is the line of being nice, ie getting some snacks, or being mean, practically telling her fuck off? I asked because I'm realizing that more often than a little I do "little" things to oblige for a female request.

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My only drive in life is "Just do it"

in situtations like that I'd make her jump thru a hoop before I jump thru hers. Just make sure the size of the hoop is fairly the same as the hoop she wants u to jump thru.

Of coarse Im assuming you know what I mean by hoops.

HB
"Get some snacks"

JUSTINcredible!
Id put out my hand.
"DING DING DING!"

HB
"You want me to pay?"

JUSTINcredible!
"Cover this and I'll get the first round of drinks at the restaurant."

or

"Cover the candy and I'll take care of the large soda so we can share it. I know you'll get thirsty and I always am."




-JUSTINcredible!
"my 2 cents."

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Mate when i go to the movies with a girl i usually get drinks and snacks before the movie starts cause im the fuckin boss and i think its a good idea. Even if she doesnt want any at least they are there. And if I paid for the tickets she IS gunna pay for the snacks. Just remember for next time u go to the movies champion.

Thats a good question though dude.
Here is a story that might help.

There is this chick that i wanna sleigh but she is kinda seein this guy.
Anyway she was startin to put shit tests on me. Like "can u hold my drink while i go dance/toilet/wherefuckinever?"
And i would fuckin drink her shitty vodka and orange juice.
She didnt ask me to hold her drink again.
Then she gives me her bag to hold and i tell her i aint holdin this and i put it on the ground.
And guess what? The guy shes seeing picks it up to hold for her. "Oh see hes a nice guy" she says.

Yeah he might be a nice guy but she just asked me to come back to her house to "stay the night" after this party we are goin to.
And she txts me bout 4-5 times a day now and sometimes i dont reply.

So I dunno if what i did was too harsh but im guessing ill be plums deep tonight.


Does that help or did i just dribble shit haha.

Cheers.

Pretty much spot on with what was wrote here. When women ask stupid shit like that, it's a shit test. They want to see how far they can get with you. The further you allow them to do shit like that too you, the less chance you have of being laid.

Firstly, thanks for comments. But I guess don't understand to concept of shit test I guess. I am guessing I am needing to say "no" (in more tactful ways), more. But, I think I'm just gonna start doing what JUSTINincredible said about hoops, or just ignore them. I don't think I should tell or act like she owes me...or should I? I've tried both before but I've had hit and misses in both ideas.

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My only drive in life is "Just do it"

Just make it a compromise. You'll allow yourself to do something for her if she does something for you first.
But if she switches moods & goes abnoxious on you just neg her like a little kid.

JUSTINcredible!
"If you behave and be good you may get snacks."

HB
"wa wa I want, I want," or "Im not being a little kid" or whatever response.

JUSTINcredible
"OK seriously... give me some money for a large drink. Im thirsty and we can share. Then I'll buy the snacks."




JUSTINcredible!

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