Ok obviously this is not the same as just trying to hit on a girl you just met or someone you don't see that often.

How do you go about hitting on girls who are in your social group? (People you see pretty often - who are friends with a lot of your friends - people who it'd be awkward to get on the "bad side" of because of other friends in the social group etc.etc..)

--
About 3 months ago I almost completely changed my social group. I met a lot of new people and I'm pretty interested in two of the girls. This social group doesn't really hang out in the weekdays, it's more of a weekend-go out and get drunk group.

Now I believe it's a bit different than hitting on a girl you don't see that often or you're just trying to get a one night stand with because - these girls are going to be around for a while. If you mess something up with one of the girls, you have the risk of getting an awkward reputation in the group, and things may become uncomfortable with others. (This just happened to me in the last social group I started hanging out with, before this one.. I was getting over one of the girls and it became extremely awkward with everyone else. Rumours started spreading about me calling her something which wasn't true and all this other bs - it turned really bad)..

I don't want that to happen again. I think I have to be more cautious about what I do..

Anyways, my situation right now is - Im pretty sure one of the girls is digging me - but we just don't hang out that often. We see each other every other weekend and they usually end in drunken nights (which may not be good..).. But I think she's one of those girls who will talk to you a lot - but are a bit shy when it comes to kino-ing and stuff like that. I want to know, in other words, how do you make her reveal her inner-beast ? Because i know this girl has the ability to be flirty as hell - but she doesnt seem to want to 'ruin' anything either, or so it seems..

We're comfortable with each other but I think it's a bit awkward that I usually just see her on the weekends with a lot of alcohol, like I'd feel weird to hang out with her during the week. Also because I usually only see her because we go out as a "group" with everyone else in it, it'd be weird if I just randomly told her one day to just hang out with me.
I know everyone says I shouldn't have one-itis or whatever but I'm kinda done of just trying to get laid by every girl I can talk to, I kinda just want to chill and possibly start a relationship with a girl .

How different should "the game" change from 1) trying to fuck a girl as soon as you get the chance to and.....2) trying to start a good, fun relationship ..

.. and also any advice on my situation please?
thanks =]

bump.

Do you have her phone number?

If not, I'd recommend getting it.

yes I do.

but like I was saying, I think it'd be awkward if I asked her to go with me individually somewhere - because we're always in a group.. So I kinda want to know how I can work things out to get to that point. Also because every time I'm with her, she always brings her sister along- so that's another factor.

Texting is great to gage where you stand with a particular girl, or take you to the point of a meet up.

I love to text message, and if done right it makes it so much easier to get a girl to meet up with you.

The way you start out is with random texts that require little to no effort to respond. You want to refrain from asking her any questions like how her day was, or what she is doing because she has to invest in that, and put effort into her answer if she really cares.

I like to use random things that don't matter- something that might make her laugh. I brag about beating little kids at video games and how it makes my self esteem high. (Credit to the love systems phone and text game book.)

"Beating my 12 year old newphew at Tony Hawk= Riott's self esteem at an all time high"

It's fun, easy and completely random.

You already have some social comfort with her as you are in the same social circle. She shouldn't be afraid of talking to you through texts.

I like to kinda search for commonalities between the two of us that would make us meeting up together more sense and no so awkward. I like to bring up that I just went to the best Sushi spot in Tacoma and it's crazy how no body knows about it. It's great, because most girls like Sushi and that is just baiting them to ask where.

From there you can set up a meet to go to that place.

There's a lot of options for you. I feel once you begin to talk to her through text messaging it can take away a lot of the awkwardness of trying to ask her out.

Hope that helps.

Dude this is easy if your in the same social group and you have social proof just game her when yal are out with everyone..dont text her DO IT IN PERSON..you can text her later on after you have gamed her enough in person..but dont start off trying to game her through text msg

you could set up a threesome with her and the sister. Seems like a win win situation to me

_________________
if you can't beat them, join them.