So I'm talking to this new chick, we hung out a few times, last time we chilled she comes over to my house we make out, I finger her an everything but have sex with her. She looks at me an says "your gonna have to wait". I shrug it off an we jus end up in normal conversation after a bit more kissing and dry humping.

Tonight we're on the phone talking an I make a sexual comment and she says " I'm not gonna have sex with you" I ignore it the first time and make another sexual comment and she repeats " I'm not having sex with you." I reply "whatever(tounge in cheek)" and she says it again...

She goes off into talkin about an sexual expirence she had with her ex boyfriend. And Im jus like " I gotta do something I'll ttyl" shes says "why?" " don't hang up on me" I'm like I gtg. And hang up. And she text me "smh" followed by a text 10mins later that said "what's wrong with you?" Followed by another 15 mins later that says " okay well I'm going to sleep, I tried talking to you but your too upset and I don't even know why. Let me know when your ready to talk" - I summarized it. That text was 500 letters long


What do you guys think? I'm a bit confused on this one

it sounds like a massive shit test because you were gaming her so well.

i think you did pretty well considering that's a pretty fucking blunt thing to say on her part. kind of sounds like a bitch. i mean, who says that?

she didn't leave you a lot of outs, did she?

i reread what your post, and also it sounds like she might be feeling like a slut. obviously she wants to fuck you because she let you go as far as you did, but then she turns around and says "i'm not going to have sex with you", then she gets kind of upset when you let her go.

she wants you, but she doesn't want to feel like a slut, she wants to know "you love her". lol. good luck!

Thanks for the reponse bro.. I actually edited the original post with some recent information. Check it out

After her 3rd text I just responded with " nah, I just don't think we're on the same page but goodnight"

She responses at 3 a.m. With " same page? How so?"

I reply " -_- do you see the time?" she writes " I can't sleep"

I ignore, and she writes me again in the morning " so your not gonna answer my question?"

I respond " we can talk about it later" she text back " why not now?why are you being so difficult?"

ok, i reread your post with the edits, and that even further confirms what i think...

you are appealing to a girl and making her want to have sex with you, she is not accustomed to that. and what i mean is, it seems like she is not accustomed to someone who generates such strong attraction from her. my guess is, she usually doesn't go as far as fast as she did with you. again, a testament to your game.

now, she is conflicted, because the rubber is ready to meet the road (pun intended). the next step is clearly you burying your cock deep inside her highway of love. she knows that. you know that. but she doesn't want to feel like a slut. i don't think the problem is with your game. i think the "issue" lies with her being conflicted between: a. wanting to fuck you, and b. not wanting to feel like a slut.

she is waiting for you to do the right thing or say the right thing to make it "ok" to fuck her.

i only see this because i'm an outsider looking in. however, i'm a huge RAFC, so as far as advice on closing the deal, no help from me mate! but at least you know the issue now, lol.

basically, she wants to bang the "boyfriend" YOU and not the "pickup artist" YOU. the challenge is how to make that happen?

Mac, stop referring to yourself as RAFC, you have great thoughts...just put them out there, man, and let people take them or not....you are logical and consistent...that is what we all are doing here, no one is always right...but your thoughts count!

As far as closing this biatch out, lol, I would suggest being up front and honest nwith her. You started to when you said, "we are not on the same page." If you hold out too much, you are being kinda dicky and will finally get her not to care...like you are pulling too much...push a little now...

I would suggest saying, when it comes up again, "Look, I can understand where you are at (ALWAYS let her know you understand) and really sex is not that big a deal to me...I can take it or leave it. At the same time, you are definitely feeling me and I am definitely feeling you." (add other post about relationship) if you don't want a relationship, this is where you give the disclaimer of what you want (ie, not on the same page)....if you are wanting a relationship, tell her you are willing to wait a bit (not forever) for the the right timing...the only time you DON'T want to wait is if you are just looking for a fuck...if you want a relationship, then why is it a problem to wait for a few...?

If you want a fuck and mess around and you give her the disclaimer she might say no (I highly doubt it here in this situation), but girls want to hear guys just communicate, even if we don't agree...guys are not good at communication and this will actually end up hurting you in the end if you don't address it!

Good Providence! (no such thing as "luck")

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thanks for your imput cap

Im not againist a relationship with her, shes a cool chick and pretty damn hott. I don't wanna rush into one tho and would like to try the good before i consider anything long term you.

she texted me again ssaying "okay then. ill leave you alone then. take care"

I had the same thing happen to me and I just stopped talking about sex and acted like I didnt even want it and one night we were laying in my bed makingout and I just stop and turned on the t.v. and started talking about what was on I was basically freezing her out and then she just put her hands down my pants and the rest is history..So freeze her out and try not to make sex such a big thing.. make her feel like its just what two ppl do when they like eachother

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she texted me again ssaying "okay then. ill leave you alone then. take care"[/quote]



Yea, she is definitely trying to reel you in...red flag to me, by the way, at how much she is "clinging" so far with so many texts...something to note...

I would say the ball is in your court now, u might have waited too long....

keep us updated!

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Yea, she is definitely trying to reel you in...red flag to me, by the way, at how much she is "clinging" so far with so many texts...something to note...

I would say the ball is in your court now, u might have waited too long....

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Well I texted her an hour after she sent that . I text " Be patient. I been doing a lot of running around today"

She didn't respond and I wrote once more two hours later just to get a reponse I wrote " what time do you get out of work?" she writes back "Midnight"

And I respond with " ok cool Just call me"

She doesn't call me but sends me a text at 2 a.m that says "Goodnight."

I'm like fuck this bitch(in my head) lol advice is still welcome, but I don't give a fuck anymore. I'm not playing cat and mouse with her.

I would say the ball is in your court now, u might have waited too long....

keep us updated!


^This is what I was wondering....now, the shift has seemed to happen and she is trying to make you jump through her hoops. IMO, you need to either reengage and jump through that hoop and actually be open about taking too long to respond, and apologize, or just let it go and move on....

Let us know what happens!

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So I wake up n the morning an text her " ok now your just being a bitch" she replys " wow. Don't get disrespect" " I don't reply.. She calls me saying " what's your problem blah blah blah" then she says something I don't like an I just hang up. She text me after that saying" I'm seriously done with you. When I don't call you, you get mad and when I do you shake me off. Grow up. Bye"

I text her back " I'm sorry I was just being stupid"

She replys " ok then tell me what's wrong? You still havent explained"

I reply back trying to change the subject " I just been stressed"

She replys " what's that have to do with me?"

I reply " nothing, that's why I'm apologizing because I been taking it out on you"

She replys " wow. I don't respect that at all"

I reply " I understand. Its the past now. What can we do

And she responds with some shut that hurt my feelings randomly she says " leave me alone plz. I don't want anything to do with you. I'm done."

That shit hurt the fuck outta me bro. I had no clue she could effect me like that. I haven't written back. I was just pissed...


Then she wrote me the next day " okay maybe I overreacted, but you don't know how to apologize"

I wrote " it's all good, I was wrong. You have to watch what you say tho. I want an apology too.

She writes back " I'm sorry" twice.

I respond " ;] no more arguing for a while. Promise?

She replys " no" " I can't promise that"

I haven't responded. This was just 10mins ago

If you want my honest opinion, man....this sounds like a Ronnie and Sammie situation from Jersey Shore....I think you both have some work to do inwardly before really being in a relationship or anything with each other....it will be emotionally taxing and violent....that is just my intuition from what I read in this post...just something to ponder....

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Lol what's funny is the last time we hung out we were just watching them. Saying how that would never be us. That shot is fake tho. But yeah I understand what you saying. I'm up for the adventure^_^

Well, good luck with that....JUST REMEMBER......

if/when you hit her, make sure it is with a Open BACKhand!....lol

TOTALLY KIDDING....

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