I went to a design/print place today to get some fliers done for my business. It was quite a weird setup for a shop like that as there was no till desk or waiting area with the print room at the back like you'd expect but just a big open plan office with the designers, printers, executives, admin working all side by side, right as you walk in off the street at ground level.

Anyway there was this nice chick there who didn't need to help me but did and gave me some pretty good IOIs afterward. I accidentally negged her as I thought she was admin but she's actually a designer but that's all good. She was wearing a nice coat indoors so I managed to get a compliment in there about that but I couldn't really game her any further in that environment without the entire office including the senior management hearing every word. I said I'd see her again when I picked up the fliers and she seemed pleased with that.

As it turns out I am going to ditch my in-house designers on this one as they are too busy and see what this company can come up with. That means I'll be in there again tomorrow with a good chance of being face to face with her so I'm planning on seeing what her lunch plans are. I will be using this company in future so I'd rather not make asses of out of both of us in front of the whole office.

Any suggestions on how to play this one?

So let me get this straight, you don't really wanna ask her out loud what her lunch plans are?

That leaves us with some non-verbal communication, the only thing I can think of is slip her a Post-it note. Try with "Lunch? (your number)".

Somebody probably got a better way to do it though.

Not a bad suggestion actually.. "Our little secret." Kind of cute, I'll keep it in mind

I like the idea of a postit note i think that could work a treat depending on how down to earth she is. I think at her work its a case of two game plans;

1. If you are going to be going in there a lot play it slow give her some chat a few times and then leave, like it doesn't bother you that much.

2. Or go straight up, straight forward with the postit note or by just saying, what time do you finish do you fancy grabbing a drink.

Regards, Saint

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Update: OK so I couldn't make it in for lunch time today but I saw her in the afternoon. Things were going well I thought, I managed to slip her my personal number 'just in case' and she asked me what I was up to for the rest of the evening...

Of course I didn't want to seem available so I told her about a friend who'd been injured and has been housebound for a few weeks because of it so I was going to take him out to cheer him up (90% true, I took him last out night).

Anyway she told me exactly where she was going with her friends including time, place etc but stopped short of asking me along. It seemed like they were having a girls night out anyway and I had an injured friend to meet afterall so I dropped it, but later I asked her when she got off work and if she wanted to go for a quick drink on the way home so we could chat a little better out of the office environment.

So she said she couldn't cause she had these plans but 'some other time'...urgh. I had no Plan B as I know little to nothing about her but experience tells me she's saying no... Then again she did tell me about the plans first and for all I know she lives far away and needs to go back to change and eat supper etc. She also gave me a big smile as I left and said she'd be in touch tomorrow but I'm not sure whether she was in customer service mode or not.

Think I might have fucked this one up but I'm not sure How do I proceed from here guys?

Maybe she's afraid of getting too involved, because she might feel if she is screwing this up it will be awkward, when you're going to her work to pick up the prints. Or if she's very work-minded she might be afraid to lose you as a customer.

That is a lot of pressure putting on her, but there must be some interest since you got her number and she told you her plans.

I would probably give her a few days to contact you, if she don't - call her and ask her what's she's doing and say you're going out for a drink, and if she cares to join you .

Make it sound like you're going with or without her, it could take some of the pressure off.