Hi recently i had change my way of talking but there is one porb than i had face currently .
last year i am very quiet and didnt talk much (AFC) . so everyone just notice me as a nice (maybe) guy because previously i am a pleaser( suck! i knew its wrong after reading PUA material and from this forum) . I do more for ppl than for myself.

so in this new semester , i start to talk alot . i try to make alot of joke and it work . Our class was not the same boring class anymore. many of my freind notice my chg . for them its a sudden change ( i think too) . i just activate my crazy-active mode...

eg.
one day, one of my girl freind txt me and remind me to bring her something , here is the process:-

Her: Daren dont forget to bring me the "__" , because i need it for my project . thank
Me:OK , thank for reminding me . almost forget bout it ~ haha
Her: Sorry , disturb you ... thank alot
Me:Is ok if it was you . you take a good rest . Dont forget to think fo me b4 go to bed~ haha haha . gud night.
her: Crazy . hahaha... Good nite .

the next day our conversation's flow not that bad . i tease her about yesterday txt and her respond by beating my arm . ( with a smile and akward face). haha.

i start to flirt alot with girls and the result its very good . i manage to make most of my friends(boy&girls) close to me ( last time , we was just "hi-bye" friend ) . they start to had joke with me , tease me and i can felt the change .

As i wrote b4 , i flirt alot ... there a situation that make me felt bad . so some of the girl notice that i flirt with most of the girl not just them . when i start to flirt they interupt by this qus , " hei , you flirt with just anyone !" ( they say it with a playful way) .

i just dont felt the attraction , when i flirt they think that i am just joking or what ever.

My prob is , is it ok to flirt with someone when they are with their freinds ? or we must wait until we are alone ( just to maintain a good image?) ? to have a best result .

sorry for the Long msg .

any opinion is appreciate.

Thank guys.

Congrats on your transformation;it's the way to go.

Prob' is,girls now are SO used to your flirty vibes that they dont know when to take it serious or just dismiss it as.

But to your question,leave the heavy flirting for when alone with the target.

Flirting or gaming a girl infront of her friends will backfire on you.

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ic thx .

ermm i think i need to control my flirt . save it haha ^^

thx for the great advice

thank

yeah if you leave her friends out of it and concentrate on her too much, they might not learn to like you as much.. you have to win the friends over, win their approval so when you walk away and leave, they can go "oh he is cool"

Focus on being funny with the group, especially if there is one of your guy friends in the group. When in a group, people subscribe to group think, so if your friend is laughing, they will laugh, and think you are funny. You can lay on the game when you get some alone time with her. It is always difficult to phase shift when her friends are around.

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if you can't beat them, join them.

is it a good idea to ask for numbers when their fren around ?

or i have to ask all of them for their num.?

Depends on the situation offcourse, and how you bring it, but with less experience, better to go for it when she's alone...

For flirting in the group, make sure you are intresting for the whole group, you can still flirt with her in subtle ways... for example: strong eye contact, the group wont notice this, but she will...

Good luck on ur change...

yeah , thx bros . i think i try to make more eye contact .

Thank for reminding me bro . strong eye contact .

i try my best .