to make a long story short I met a girl online talked to her got her number been texting her asked her three days ago by saying "do you want to go out sometime?" she said okay:), then I said Tuesday or Wednesday? she said Tuesday. I let it be until today but because she lives so far I felt the need to confirm, the date was supposed to be tomorrow. I text her about an hour ago and said hey what's up, she said nothing, teaching you? (she is a teacher) I replied and said, working, lol still good to go for tomorrow?... and nothing its been an hour, how do I recover from this!? were both 22 good looking, she speaks four languages if that's relevant.

I would have went about this a different way. I wouldnt have ask her. I would have said "so i was thinking are first date we should go bowling" she would have replied with o really or she may have said ok..you always need to let her know what the activity is gonna be and when your gonna do the activity..This way when you go to confirm the meeting you can bring her back to the feeling she had when she said yes to meeting you..when you went to confirm you could have said "so you ready for me to beat you at some bowling tomorrow"...THIS IS JUST A EXAMPLE YOU DONT HAVE TO USE BOWLING!!
But for your situation right now I would give her more time to reply and if she dont then text her and say"Its ok I understand if your to shy"

that's a great idea. I knew time was key, if I blow up her inbox I'm surely screwed lol. how much time do you think I should wait?

I'd wait a good while, then text her with what love said, finishing off with something along the lines of you going to sleep now, that way it doesn't feel like you're bombarding her or stalking her because it's your last chance of the day. Might make her respond quicker too.

Then again her phone could just be dead, you have no idea how often that happens to me.

She may just be busy but if she doesnt text u soon. I would text her before the night was up because its more of a playfull text than needy..but when she text you back dont bring up yal meeting unless she does first..and if she doesnt just wait a couple days again before you bring up meeting her..

alright, that's going to be tough lol every ounce of my being wants to know right now, but my brain and you guys are telling me no! don't text her yet Haha I feel like I'm on a very thin line of this happening or not

I've been were ur at man WAIT or you will mess it up..the only way to get over this is have more girls in ur life so she want be the only one ur sitting around thinking about

one of my female co workers suggested I call her since I have not talked to her yet, around 8 its five now, is this good advice or bad advice

I wouldn't do it. The ball is in her court now. (Don't know if that's the right proverb lol)
If the date doesn´t take place tomorrow, it's her bad. Stick to the one text and if it doesn't happen, freeze her out for a while and then let her set up a new date.

What MisterHyde said, freeze her out and don't text her again. It's on her now because you already have done your part. If she really wants to go she'll respond to you before tomorrow night or at least text you and hint toward it before then.

Don't look much into it though, you said she's a teacher and she told you she was teaching, so she's likely busy and didn't reply right away. But either way don't worry about it, if she's busy she'll get back to you before then, if she's second guessing the date freeze her out, she'll end up feeling guilty and you can reschedule it later on.

Ok, Ill stick to the original plan. Question in regards to freezing her out, i know this works because I have seen it work, but will it work with someone I have had minimal contact with?

I talked to her via E-mail for like 3 days.. maybe 6-7 total replies each. I got her number 2 days ago, I tried talking to her via text a bit but she was unresponsive, i felt like I was quickly losing all of the "value" or what you would call it i built in the thread and quickly asked her out and let it be until i made this mistake today.

My question is, if I freeze her out I feel like its highly probable I'll never talk to this girl again. Im most definetely an AFC, ive had success in the past (before a 3 year relationship) being completely blunt and borderline a dick, and it got me laid, but i cant seem to get back to that point, maybe i need to get out more, should I freeze her out and cut my losses if this fails, is there any non pathetic way of getting back in the game with her if this doesnt happen?

I feel like the second i get her to go out with me, she has no chance, but right now I feel like i have no chance getting to that point.. lol

It's not about being a dick, first and foremost. It's about confidence and not letting a girl walk all over you.

Second, either she tries to contact you before the date, and you win a date, either she contacts you after, you freeze her out for a while (not sure how long, others can fill in here) and then arrange a date afterwards, you win, OR she doesn't contact you and you lose nothing of value.

Look on the bright side at all times, mate!

-Hyde

It's a risk you take, in my own personal expierience freezing someone out usually ends up making them feel guilty and then they try making up for it to get that feeling to leave.

She's a busy woman, teaching isn't a job that you have a lot of free time with, even after the work day you still have things to do in regards to it. Before asking her out you should have made a phone call to her though instead of a text. Her hearing your voice would have built a higher attraction toward you and would of gave you a better gauge on whether she lost interest or was busy.

If for some reason she doesn't respond to you after freezing her out oh well, her career might be more important or she just wasn't interested in you enough. It's only one girl let her go and keep it moving. For future references though again I think it's best to actually have spoken on the phone with her before setting a date up. And asking something like "are you ready for that date tomorrow" or something similar is a no no. You have to convey someone who takes control, you were asking for her confirmation, like someone said something like "so i was thinking are first date we should go bowling", it gives you a much stronger presence and can lead into a conversation.


I definitely wouldn't text her again tonight though, freeze her out, if she doesn't respond tonight then tomorrow just say something playful non date related and start up a convo, after things get flowing a little bit put it in there somewhere that you have a date at so and so's and whatever time. She'll either get jealous and think it's another girl if she's slow and try getting you back on her side, or she'll remember about you and her and say something back to you like "OMG REALLY!? Me too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!", "oh really?! with who???????". The biggest thing is be willing to cut the losses though if it doesn't happen.

So 2 things have been said, is it better to freeze her out completely until tomorrow, or send her a text saying "Im heading to bed, Its ok, I understand if your too shy"?

It depends. Do you want to come off as eager to see her, or do you want to play it cool and nonchalant?
If 1, text her, if 2, freeze her out.
Consider what you think she'd like more, though.