Hahha Ignore the title, I would like to introduce my self. I'm in my early 20s in the Midwest (U.S.A) I'm not really great with women, I seem to always mess up on the stupidest things. At times I feel I am socially retarded due to many different reasons. I'll briefly go over a few.
-I never dated during high school. ( Only once)
- I was obese in till I was 17, When I decided I would take the initiative to lose the weight, I'm now average weight.
-As previously stated I use to be really fat, I now have excess skin. Winch is always lingering in the back of my mind, its not very noticeable, but I have to be careful about the type of clothes I ware and how I move my body, I actively work out and maintain my diet in hopes that it will reduce its self in time, however my doctors and other health professionals feel that I need to have it removed via plastic surgery. ( as most know excess skin is very expensive to get rid of, and unfortunately I don't have the money to do it at the moment )
-Because I have excess skin, it brings down my confidence in general.
-I don't find my self that funny.
- I try to hard sometimes, but it feels like when I don't try at all, opportunities pass by.

Because I was obese for most of my younger life, I was very anti social, so talking to any one in general is hard for me, I try to talk to random when I'm out and about, but its hard for me to keep a conversation going.

Hahah what I guess I'm trying to say, is I'm lonely and I would really appreciate any help.

Sincerely.

I had some terrible acne, and I had to pretend like it didn't bother me, it was really strange i found that girls liked kissing my cheeks (gross right?). Vulnerabilities only make you attractive when she gets to know you, and she realizes that you have a weakness and there is a passion underneath the weakness.

Ex. You have attraction now you wanna build trust for the lay, you tell a story about your struggle with weight loss and how self conscious you were, and your goal and what you did you achieve it and how it felt. How much work you have left to do. How one day you said NO MORE! and wanted to change your life permanently. That's a powerful story, then you can connect on that feeling that many girls have themselves. The feeling is that many people want something and either they've made up their mind and done it or they haven't yet pulled the trigger, but both fantasize or experienced the feeling of freedom, achievement and positive change by setting goals.

About being funny, truth of the matter is, I've picked up girls using mystery method's "funny", but you don't need it at all. In fact it makes the pickup lots harder. Funny is only good when the girl is in your friend circle.

Balls and confidence are enough to cause a girl to want to connect with you, and thus you can play a fate card and cause tons of attraction to occur. 80% of my lays my approach wasn't me trying to be funny or telling funny stories or having clever funny lines. However, i was positive, strong, and confident, and a tad bit romantic, showing 110% intent to love a woman. You can imagine the European suave seducer kind of pickup, no frills no laughs. Watch Vicky Christina Barcelona.

Yes opportunities pass by thats the worst part knowing you only get so many.

mdlam, Wise words man Thank you so much for your advice.