Damn, I wrote the post and then it deleted.

I will summarize what I was going to write for you. Basically, Panda is right. You need to relax yourself. Your mind is like mine because we both think so much that you distract your body from doing its job. I get you. You should try some meditation to learn how to slow you mind and calm your soul. I know it sounds corny, but it pays dividends to having great sex. I learned thru martial arts...

All you need is some confidence so that you can have awesome sex. Learn how to focus your energy where it needs to focus (your crotch). Then allow your mind to wonder into having dirty thoughts about you and that HB. I let myself go during sex while being in complete control. It may seem difficult to do, but once you are comfortable, it will be so easy.

The most important thing that i notice which helps me relax is that I know that by her allowing me to have sex with her, I have already seduced her. So having sex with her just the icing on the cake. That is your gift for the seduction you have done. Now show her that she made a great choice by having awesome sex with her....

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this may be hard... but you should stop watching porn, stop masturbating for a few days or a week, as it may be that seeing really good looking women, with perfect boobs and vaginas on the screen makes you less turned on by the average women, with average boobs and vagina. then maybe the next one that comes your way will be more of a turn on.

Thanks guys

>>THaywood, tried that, didn't watch porn for more than a month, and masturbated maybe once in 2 weeks, didn't help :/ (Watching porn from 11 really fucks up)

>>Lorenzo321, meditation sounds good, maybe you could give some advices for any audio/video courses? Or the only choice is to take class?

Take a yoga class. Audios are not as invigorating as a class. On a side note, you may find yourself a cutie in the class (for whatever reason yoga and dance classes are always filled with beautiful women). So learn how to focus in that environment and you will surely succeed with women in general (very much worth it!!!!).

Also, try going on youtube; you should be able to find something good there. I saw a good video on the P90X videos (of working out) concerning yoga. Give that a try.

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