What's up everybody. I had a school event a few days ago, I played in a band for in front of basically my entire school, along with other kids and I gotta say, people noticed...but they didn't. One girl who is the most stuck up girl in the class actually mentioned it to me, I didn't give her any attention...like always and eventually she just said "Hey, you were playing last night weren't you?". She's pretty good looking too. I also stood up in my lunch while reenacting something I did at the show (I was running away from the curtain when it was closing lol) and I stood up and bumped into the girl I had a crush on and she couldn't stop laughing. ) I didn't look like an idiot believe it or not. I have a few more examples but let me get to the point.

I finally got SOME recognition but...I didn't. What I mean is People noticed I was in the show but No one but that one girl has said anything. I bumped into that girl, and it seemed like after she talked to me (Im a genuinely nice guy, and I was polite and apologized but was embarrised so kinda laughing) she didn't look at me as much anymore. I think I feel that if I come out of my little shell that girls will lose interest because there is no more of that mystery anymore. Lately, I have turned into a way more outgoing person and I'm not afraid to do that, but tell me guys- Will it push girls away? It won't effect how I act but it would be nice to know.

I know exactly what you mean man... here's a word of advice though..genuine nice guys finish last. Start looking up a PUA named "Bravo" cocky/funny videos and stories. His stuff is what brought me to the point I'm at now in the game and it will always keep these girls wanting more. Hope this helps ya buds..

Cheers,

Stryker16

Thanks man I'll do that! Anyone else got some input?

I agree with this guy!



-BravoPUA

Not necessarily - a genuine nice guy can be good. However you need to dare to combine it. It's all character game as I call it. You need to combine stuff that works for you. I'm a genuine nice guy - I don't neg, I hardly ever ignore and yet - I get the girls that I want. Why? It's my character game.

Try to do something that fits your style OP. But whatever you do - don't go too fleshy - I mean... don't hold back. You can do what you want because you're a genuine guy. Just speak your mind. Most girls will get you because they actually like your opinion.

Ever heard a girl say to you "I don't want to lose our friendship because it's worth so much for me?" That's because she REALLY likes you, but you didn't took enough matter in your owns hands. Just combine it. You'll get there

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My GF told me this a few days back. She has doubts about our relationship but never wants to loose me (her words).

I am also a nice guy, too nice. I became alot more social over the years, but the I still have the nice guy frame. Now and then people tell me that when they first saw me they thought I was such a nice, well-raised person.

My GF is coming over tonight, what d'you think is the best way to handle things? I don't wanna lose her.

Stop being too nice - that's the Mr Nice Complex. A well balanced boyfriend is a guy that depicts dominance, sexuality, friendlyness, romance and social. I'm more or less guessing you're the guy that lets her do a lot of things - while actually don't do enough for your own. Start doing more thing for yourself and stop thinking about what would please her - remember, the relationship is only good if both of you feel strong enough to survive without eachother. You need to be independant!

Tonight - show her a lot of push-pull. Tease & let go, tease & let go. be playfull but make sure you are dominant. Learn about what spots that actually get girls turned on really fast - and then let it all go.

Good luck & don't forget - have fun & be independant.

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Thanks. By doing push-pull, do you also mean telling her I love her, and a bit later show doubt myself? I think that's a bit too risky for me.

About doing things I want, I do them. I often go out without her and do things I enjoy in life (gym, friends, ..). My biggest complaint is we don't have enough quality time together.