(from girls).

I go clubbing often, I try to improve my style, I try to be positive, smile, try to be confident, but it never gets me anywhere.

And what really kills me is when I go clubbing, like last night, and see so many of the girls getting with guys, and then there's just me dancing with some friends, and I never get girls coming up to me and dancing with me.
I know guys are supposed to make the first move but I'm just not ready for trying and failing and getting rejected.

Please help

your problem is that you're trying to go against evolution....

Look for girls looking at you. When they look in your direction, hold eye contact with them and smile. Due to a wonderful trick of evolution, we know when eyes are pointing at us: if you look at them and smile, they'll notice you.

If they look a second time, it's probably on. More so if they smile.

Also note that shifting the eyes sideways generally shows lack of interest, looking downwards shows interest.

keep going with game just remember how you are feeling is where we all have been and each time you push through you go further than the ton of guys who at the same point and turned back.
You can fake it till you make it... but what happens when your persistant with game is you eventually develope an aura about you that you cant fake but people and girls will pick it up intuitively so keep going even if what you actively try isnt working your hours of effort will speak an aura for itself in time.
The reality with rejection is their is actually very few people that know you not even your mama knows everything about you so im certain a club girl dosent know enough about you to reject you but she may reject her 3second impression of you.Let go of the neediness for them to like you 'fck em' or you might look afc to them hell even i can spot the afcs.
Girls are just guys with girl bits they want the same things fun,connection and sex i susspect that the club guys had this mindset and didnt see them as mysterious creatures.
peace.

in what way?

In that pretty much every single species on the planet Earth (OK some of you zoology geeks can cite the exceptions because there probably are 3 or 4 of them LOL) the male of species pursues and tries to court the female and then the female chooses which male(s) gets to fuck her.

unless you are a handsome, uber-rick and famous rock star women are not going to approach you and come on to you. Even if you were handsome, rich and famous depending on your level of passivity it may still not work because at some point every female is going to want you to get up off your ass and try to court her. Mother Nature does not want lazy, innert males to breed. it harms the species.

Women rarely make the initial approach and do the courting but they give off signs of interest (IOIs) and the better you are able to read those signs the more efficient you can become at approaching the ones that are lesser likely to reject you but you are still going to have to get off your ass and make the first move.

If you are not ready to try and fail then you are not ready to be fucking. If you aren't mature enough in your sexuality to risk approaching some gal to interact with her and run the risk of her rejecting you then you still need to be hanging out with your beta-boy buddies and going home to spank.

Seriously, I'm not trying to be mean to you or to put you down or bust your balls, I am being sincere. Interacting with fertile women, dating, sexuality, marriage, child-rearing etc etc all require a degree of maturity, inner strength and personal fortitude. If you are not ready for that then you do not having any business doing that.

Mother Nature made breeding hard for males for a reason - SO THE WEAK, TIMID AND LAZY ONES WOULDN'T PASS ON THEIR GENES TO THE NEXT GENERATION. A man has to be strong and courages to provide for and protect his female and his offspring. The first test of that strength and courage that Mother Nature imposes is the ability to approach a female and make a move. IF you can't do that, the process stops right then and there.

Make no mistake, it IS scary and intimidating the first few dozen times and the next few hundred after that get a little better and so on and so on.

The question you have to ask yourself is do you want to be a man that will have a mate and a home and family and will provide for and protect them. Or do you want to be a drone-boy that hangs with his beta-buddies and plays video games and beats off to porn dreaming about women?

Again, I'm not trying to be mean and insulting. I am laying out the decision that each fertle, adult male must make. It needs to be an informed decision and you need to know the risks and outcomes that each decision make.

And for the record I do know some real live 40 year old virgins that chose not to overcome their approach anxiety and fear of rejection and are now living celebate lives as drones....and frankly they seem OK with it. They still aren't ready. Only you can decide when you are ready or not.

This is a great post, thanks

do you want girls or attention? If its just attention this is easy.

Do this step-by step

1)Come into club when its half-full.
2)Have a shot with friends.
3) go into middle of the dance floor and dance the way you like with a don't give a fuck attitude. Look around. Some girls might ask you to join them=attention
another option
See super-hot girls dancing together and bunch of dudes trying to dance around them. Go straight through the guys(while dancing) Go straight between girls,(they'll notice you I promise) Start dancing with them(not near them) start touching(take their hands and pull them a little bit towards yourself, make them turn their backs on guys.)= attention.
Here you are in both cases several gorgeous women dancing with you and making everybody else in the club jealous of you.=ton of attention.

That's why you don't wait till the magical moment "when you;ll be ready". You just drag your ass to the nearest club/mall and do it.

Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.-I know it stinks.

You almost sound like a friend of mine. I told him girls are giving him attention but the thing is he isn't looking because he too busy looking at other girls. Look around you and I bet your ass there be a girl or two trying to get your attention.

I'm going clubbing again tonight, I will be peacocking by wearing some crazy stuff hopefully as its an underwear party (as in wear underwear on top of normal clothes, lol) and I really hope this will be the night I even just get some dances or kisses with girls.

Start opening sets man! Something cool about pick up, now matter how much you fail with it, If you keep trying you will eventually get better at it ,it just gonna happen !

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"Hey guys! I've tried NOTHING and I'm all out of ideas! How do I get girls without having to actually approach?"

Sorry man, if life were that easy we wouldn't need the community, any material, eBooks, bootcamps or anything.

First off, you're not approaching because you're ASSUMING you're gonna fail. Well, with that attitude you definitely will, and you're just making a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Instead, try just going out with the goal to be SOCIAL and have FUN. Regardless of what happens, at least just say hi to people, use a few simple openers, talk to guys as well, and be friendly and easy going.

From there, if you get into an interaction with a girl you like, just see how far you can keep PUSHING it. That is, if you're talking and having a good chat for 10 minutes, MOVE her to sit down, or outside for a smoke, or to the dancefloor, etc. Then escalate physical contact, and increase sexual tension. You'd be surprised how much you can get away with when you TRY with CONFIDENCE.

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Pick up is no different than playing a sport. Can't just throw on skates and pickup a hockey stick and be a master of it, it takes practice. Some people are just naturally better than others in the beginning. The only way you're going to get better is by putting yourself out there and failing. Just realize failure and rejection happens to everyone. Every single person on this site can rattle off dozens of embarrassing stories about themselves botching things they've done with women. It just happens.