When most people complain about not having a car, they're full of shit. However, I face a real serious problem, I don't have a car and I live in a rural suburb. I live 40 miles from the major city, public transit doesn't run out this way, cabs cost 40 bones a round trip and I just lost my job. I'm pretty much stuck. This is less about asking questions then it is about just explaining to the group the problems faced by rural gamers. Malls are miles away, 10 at best; it’s snowy outside so no biking. I'm trapped in this hell hole and I can't get out.

The few times I can manage to snag the car from my mom are great, but it’s not often. My mom cock blocks me; I often lie and say that I'm hanging out with buddies to go chill with girls. It’s frustrating living in an ultra-Christian rural suburban household. So now that you all know, I'll shut the fuck up whining now.

So just some advice to guys in my similar situation, have realistic goals, try going out to the mall maybe once a week or some shit, or going to the local bookstore. Just get the fuck out of the house. Instead of crying I talked to a few people, here some solutions.

1.) The Grocery Store
2.) The Local Coffee Shop
3.) Bookstores
4.) Malls once a week or every two weeks
5.) Clubs or lounges once a month at best

I know it’s hard to game in areas that aren’t urbanized, lots or roadblocks exist, but it’s better to take your time and actually do something, then to sit on your ass and do nothing. If you can catch a cab for cheap (do it), if you can ride the bus-stop being a pansy and do it, if you can ride the train into a city and stay with friends, then do it. Gaming in rural settings isn’t going to be easy, but actually planning some stuff out you might be able to game in these settings.

This mostly applies to those like my self who are starting sort of fresh and lack a social circle, and a party crew. This stuff will get you to the party crew.

sorry, i had to quote this, being as it is ONE of the FUNNIEST things i've ever read on the internet.

To further add to what I said above, living in these areas can be a good thing. To be honest this should also be a time of developing some serious inner game. Focus heavy on the inner game, and work on ONE aspect of game at a time. Don't get distracted by kino stuff if you can't even approach without looking away or fluttering. Don't worry about closing if you can't even have a decent conversation. Work one part of game at a time. I think this helps, I'm not expert, but this is just something I came up with to help the rural suburbanites, and the boys out in the sticks. Some layout I follow personally, this may not to everyone. Try each for two weeks; don’t get distracted by ANYTHING else.

Outer Game Layout Plan: (Do each for two weeks to a month, some should be a month minimum)

1.) Approach and Open (Take of month if you have a lot of AA)
2.) Conversation and rapport building/compliance ladder (take a month)
3.) Building Social Circles (Take a month)
4.) Kino/ Sexual stuff (SFT)
5.) Closing
6.) How to set up the dates properly and remain spontaneous.
7.) Other topics that maybe more advance than the things posted here. (Managing Expectations, Lowering ASD, etc.)

You don’t have to follow this to a T, but pretty much this order should be followed, it’s simple, easy to manage and use. If you write detailed journals it’ll help your progress and help you manage things much better. If you can see, these objectives follow a certain flow. Remember ONE thing at a time; don’t get distracted by doing other things. At the same time you could be doing ONE inner game thing at a time. Remember- ONE -don’t get swamped and believe your super man, JUST ONE.

Later I’ll be posting stuff I think a man should work on, and the traits I personally believe he should harness. But first and foremost, take a longer time with these concepts, this could take years, but it’s well worth it. For now I’ll list 5 I believe are most important to game.

1.) Will Power- Having the strength to make a decision, take action, and handle any task that comes up, regardless of inner or outer resistance.
2.) Self Discipline/ Self Control- The rejection of instant pleasure in favor of something greater or achieving a higher goal. (This is simple, it means that if you’re planning to bring a woman back to your house, have enough sense to clean the damn place up, simple ).
3.) Patience- Calming down, and being willing to accept that things take time. NOTHING happens over night; suppress your restlessness in order to do things properly.
4.) Perseverance (Overcoming) - The ability to weather change, hurt, inner and outer resistance, and other difficulties in order to finish a task, EVEN when things become hard. (You’ll find that sticking to things until it finishes greatly improves game).
5.) Diligence- Not out stretching your self, taking things slowly and with thought in order to make sure they’re done right. (This means don’t go fast through any of this shit like speedy Gonzalez and expect it to be done properly. Take your time, do things orderly, calmly. Repeat and repeat activities, drill yourself. If you think you don’t understand something, go back and redo it. Don’t worry about the progress of others, worry about the progress of self. This goes closely with patience, but this is more of don’t become zealous even when you become good, take your time and do it right. )

Do these things in order, do ONE of each at a time, preferably in the order that they are listed in. Take your time, do things right and correctly, if you’ve messed up, don’t fret, go back and retry. Try and retry, that’s the message behind this whole thing, work on one aspect of outer and inner game at a time. No more, no less. Write some of the inner game definitions on the wall, and repeat them daily. People talk about what inner game is, inner game is the combination of Will Power and Self Discipline which combined together is called INNER STRENGTH.

One thing I have on my wall is, “WILL POWER and SELF DISCIPLINE are important assets. I AM DETERMINED to gain INNER STRENGTH and BE STRONG!” It may sound corny, but stuff like this will help you overcome your AA, addictions, and laziness/sloth. It is this that will help you become the person you want to be. Speak your words and they’ll have power. The quickest way to change your psychology is through your words. Anyway I didn’t want to get off on this tangent, it’s just for those guys who are suburbanites/stickboys or guys whose progress is kinda slow. Remember ONE aspect of game at a time, meaning only doing one of each at a time; take a month for the inner game ones. Sometimes it might need longer.

I don’t dare call my self an expert, just things I’ve been doing to help my self get along. Remember to journal all your results down, your feelings, right a field journal, and a journal of feelings. People might laugh at it, but often times writing about past events and how you felt about it can help you to accept what happen. I just recently wrote 10 pages about the embarrassments I put myself through when I was younger, it helped heaps. Thank you for reading this post.

Sincerely,

Gaius

I honestly don't even care, its true, she sees that I'm transforming from the timid momma's boy I was and starting to develop into a confident self loving man. It scares the hell outta her. I'm not ashamed to admit that I'm late blooming, I'd rather be late blooming then never blooming at all.

If you're the academic type, then stay home and finish school but if not, why not save up for an open ended round trip ticket to any Global city in the World? Stay at a youth hostel and go find yourself a job. . . find some roommates . . . settle in . . . see the World . . . meet women from all over the World . . . gain some experience. If you f up and can't find a job that'll feed you, you just take the flight back home and consider it a holiday.

On the one hand, you complain about your little town and on the other, you're digging yourself in deeper and looking to build a social network out of that little town of yours? You're the 'superman' who lives in a hick town with momma?

Like I said before, I'm not expert, I don't pretend to be. I am only putting things in here that I have been doing, am doing, or will be doing. I don't make excuses; this post was for the guys who are having a hard time out in sparsely populated areas, in hopes that this would help them. I am not experienced, I do not wish to fight, if you have some suggestions I am open to them. Other then that, thats for your witty replies . Go to the coffee shop, the store, something, just do it guys, use what you have. Thats the point of the post .

hey gaius,

i feel your pain on the whole mama thing.

my mom would own me and keep me in lock-step if she could.

she's got my brother that way

i'm the one that got away! THANK GOD!

Can't thank you enough for posting this link Hobbit! I had no idea about the existence of such a concept

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I am the superman, the superman who wants to travel to the global city. I have a choice to be amongst the global city, or be amongst the fortress of my self. I am fearful that if I don't do it all at once that I'll lose it. Maybe there is more work to be done on my fortress, then there is to be done going to the global city...

Going to agree so much with OP and admire him for opening up like that.

I live in a bit of a small town and even though the big city of London is not far away and perfect for a trip out practicing daygame I try to make the most of every opportunity here and in other small towns not far away. There are of course the problems of a limited social circle, lack of wingmen and fear of developing a reputation among people seeing you as that guy who is so obviously hitting on girls at random.

But the big problem is lack of gameworthy girls my age. In bookstores, libraries, malls and other places most people are either middleaged or erm slightly underage and we don't really want to go there do we?

not, and talk about it... LOL

I have thought about how hard it would be to game in such areas, althouhg you could probably build your social proof up in 5 mins and it would last for life

Nah seriously though people do usually forget serious game and focus on moving to a city or town atleast Once their they go nuts!

But I like how you have made theories and methods for gaming in low population areas. I haven't finished reading everything you put but I am going read it all now.

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I think I maybe working a too many things at one time. Inside me there is this internal war as to what I can and really can't do now. One of the options I unfortunately don't have is to go out frequently like most. I realize day by day that I am not a bad or a weak person, I just need to bring out that inner power that's hidden with in me. For now I need to focus on finding a job and working on my self. My primary focus will be on inner game; however, when the chance arises that I can work on outter game I will.

I have found one genuine sticking point, it seems as though when I approach stationary targets, I can do so with no problem. But for whatever reason, people on the move, I feel so rude stopping them, I feel bad when people are standing up or doing something. Mobile targets seem to be my great trapping point as of late. On a college campus it's easy, when I go to a mall it's not great. I did 5 approaches at the mall when I went last time, which was pretty good. I had one really good approach, but she was stationary. I guess I have to work this problem out. But how possibly, I can't even fathom. I don't like mobile targets, groups, or mobile groups, not my thing :/.