In my opinion (if you have read anything I post on here this will make sense) being the obvious choice is all you need for a BF destroyer. Anything else is just kind of shitty.

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thats soo..... zen. you should write a book, oh jedi master!


Zen and the art of PUA???

the Tao of Jits ?? or maybe

The gospal according to Jits

I didn't get it until I read it over a couple of times. Then I realized, you mean that psychologically standing out as the obvious choice is the only bf destroyer one would need. I couldn't agree more. That's some deep ass shit man. Sooo true.

If you're not standing out, honestly, you don't deserve it. I guess my question is how do you start the process of getting in her head then and becoming that choice given the fact that she already has someone and emotions and whatever are in play--unless the answer is that if she's giving me IOIs I already am and just need to keep it up and "let her" take it there?

In that case do I just get her to hang out alone again and go for it then?

I feel like there is more I want to ask about this but but for dome reason it's not coming out, so I guess let's start with it...

R

you also have to remember, women dont always go for the obvious choice.

Well if she is already invested in someone then the question is "how much".
Sometimes, depending on your motives, it could be good to help lead the conversation to a place that outlines your general "higher value" against her current BF. I think it is almost impossible do directly attack the BF without it DLV. No matter how you cut it she is going to pick up that you care too much. First of all I don't really go after "taken" women because there are just too many drama free options out there. On the occasion that I meet a girl who has a BF,and that I believe could provide a mutually beneficial relationship to me, I generally just treat her like any other girl. If she does a little "cost/benefit analysis" and decides I'm a better investment then I go with it. Really the boyfriend is HER concern not mine. If someone faults you for trying to get what you want then they are just intimidated.

I'm too tired for deep thought. I know I am not almost the best at getting my thoughts onto the page so if you could shoot some specific questions about the content that would be helpful in organizing my thoughts.
j

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

i agree totally! if im with a woman, and a PUA, or anyone for that matter was able to snatch her up.... then she wasnt really mine in the first place!

i know, iv been the guy whos lost girls! just need to step up my game!