| Now, when you read through this, don't imagine it as a list of things you need to run through every single time you enter a set. The vision is merely a guideline of what women will perceive as a highly inriguing man... and a PUA version at that.
If you fail epicly, ensure that in retrospect, you go over this list and see what happened in your set.
1. Shit can the "canned material," and utilize clever, witty quips. Cleverness is construed as charm in the opening stages of a set. This is the case in most scenarios... and where I see problems in game. Kill that canned stuff, it's been done to death. Also, fluff talk is something that a woman can get from anyone, anywhere... why would she want the same from you. Give her an adventurous conversation to lead to an adventurous outing on the town.
2. Get out of your comfort zone. When I say this, what I mean is that when you take a girl on a date, you've already lost in most cases. In the event that a woman is a SHB, she goes on a lot of dates. If she goes on a lot of dates, how many work out to her expectations? 1/5, 1/10? Hence, the idea of an adventure. No, it shouldn't just be an adventure for her... but, for you as well. If you step outside of your comfort zone on such an adventure, she will take notice. Let the night take you with it and put yourself in a position of advantageous onslaught...
3. Be a man, take the reigns. You asked her to come out, you are in charge of the night's destiny. Make decisions and keep a level of spontaneity about you. Remember that no matter the situation in life, you are making a sale. In a job interview, you sell yourself. On an date, you sell yourself as an adventure (thus, calling it an adventure) by the places that you choose to take her.
Sort of got hung up off-topic for the last two... I digress...
4. Confidence, complacency, congruence. These three C's will take you on a journey that will better yourselves. Be confident, exude it... let it come from your pours. Do things that are fun for you to do(self-satisfaction= complacency), and more importantly, be yourself! Don't be someone you're not. After all, you sell her the evening, and she will sell you herself... a differentiated version of the push-pull philosaphy.
5. Tolerance/acceptance. Sometimes things don't always go as they should, so keep a back-up plan in mind. Rather than going to a sweet club and it being full to capacity, and being pissy, take her to a ballroom dancing studio or cooking class and learn some new fun shit. Another example... If you get turned down and she walks away, accept it and move on. Its not her fault she wasn't that into you... it was your own.
6. Understanding body language/ facial expressions. There's nothing worse than saying something to kill the mood, when you don't realize that there's mood to be killed. lol Watch her body language/ facial expressions... AND KNOW YOUR OWN.
7. Modesty. Demonstation of higher value can prove to make you lower value in a woman's eyes. Keep accomplishments short, no need to boast... there's always someone better than you at what you do, my friend. It says, I've done great things, but Im more focused on where they will lead me than what they have done for me. This is in tuned with congruence.
8. Field testing. DO NOT JUST THINK YOU CAN READ 60 years of challenge and go out and write your own book... test things out... some ideas work naturally with what you do on a normal basis. Some dont fit. You wont know what works for you until you have tried it time and time again.
9. Technique elasticity. If your technique for picking up women isn't durable enough to withstand her saying something off the wall, then it needs work. Expect things that come unexpectedly, things dont always happen as they should. lol
10. Proactivity. Don't wait to react to situational/environmental norms or anomalies. Be proactive and don't be afraid to take the lead. It is something that comes with being a man... lead the conversation, lead the escalation... lead, lead, LEAD.
11. Sexual tension. There's a twist... it IS already there. Don't kill it. There is a tension struggle like this in every interaction between men and women. When you meet someone, you want the tension to create an attraction. When you date a woman, you want the tension to guide the evening in the right direction (wink). And in a relationship... these struggles DEFINE the relationship's fireworks. If the fireworks aren't there... sex will lose it's novelty in your relationship and one of you will leave/cheat.
12. Escalation/KINO. For god sake, touch her!... No kino in most cases = welcome to the friend zone. Escalate using KINO/tongue in cheek responses... keep a mood light from the beginning with fun, but let the sexual tension take over where the night will go to.
These can work for nearly every situation that occurs. Just tweak them to fit your own...
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