I have been friends with this girl for a few years now.. Its hard to distinguish what is an IOI, and what is just normal friendship. I wouldn't go as far as saying I have a crush on her, but I am sexually attracted to her like no other.

Whenever we talk about girls, she ALWAYS says I would not be compatible with whoever we are talking about. She has never once said, "She would be good for you"

Sometimes, when we are parting ways, our hug goodbye can last a painfully long time, and by that I mean 3 to 8 seconds long. Both my arms being above hers.

Whenever we go in public places together, people assume we are a couple. (This one is a little hard to explain, it could be the way we interact with each other)

For Christmas, she bought me a really nice coat, that compliments my style very well.

Basically I wonder if I should make a move?
Somehow turn this in to a FWB?
Im not trying to ruin our friendship, if it was any other girl, I wouldnt have a problem being upfront and going for it.
Is there a way to distinguish what an IOI is in a friendship?

She bought you what sounds like an expensive gift, she gives you long hugs, she states that other girls wouldn't be good for you...It sounds like you need to escalate my friend. You know what to do, but this girl has you timid for some reason. Man up and put that fear to the side DeeDubStyle, she's just a girl.

If you decide to escalate, be cool about it, don't start wagging your tail and acting desperate. Good luck!

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sound advice! i have kinda a similar situation. i think, i will take this advice to heart as well!

sounds like shes 100% into you. Make it happen!

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a few helpful add-ons:

i. don't use words!!!!!! don't ask to kiss her, don't ask to touch her, do it.

ii. don't apologize for being a sexual human being if she freaks out.

iii. don't rush it. use an escalation ladder. chief has a good one on the pua lounge.

you have everything to gain and nothing to lose. you won't lose your friendship unless you turn into an AFC when she resists. and if you never go for it, you'll never get it, so just go for it man, she seems totally into you.

solid!

my advice...... boil em, mash em, stick em in a stew! lol



nuff said.

Thanks for the replies. Its not that shes got me timid, its just that shes my friend and I have never been in a situation like this really, and would rather do things right the first time. I don't believe I am in her "friend zone," simply because I never placed myself there. I have a good circle of girls I hang out with, but this girl is my best friend out of all of them.


Can someone explain the escalation ladder when used on a girl that is more of a friend?

Would it be better to go for a kiss, then back off and see how she responds... or just start making out?

Also how can I get intimate with her, without it seeming like something more than it is, without using words?

oooohhhhhhhhhh...... im liking this.

wait till the masters see this! oh, the things were gonna learn.



..... quick! wheres my notepad!?