Ok so for the past month I've had the biggest confidence and I was pickin up girls left and right from clubs yadda yadda yadda that's not important. I haven't been going out as much as I would like but when I was it was all gravy.

Thing is, I went out last night and wasn't really feelin it. I randomly found myself acting really AFC out of nowhere. Fiddling with my blazer buttons, missing opportunity after opportunity to talk to chicks, standing around racking my brain for openers. I didn't talk to one chick for more then 2 minutes which is a total waste of a night out. No calibration there. I had so much approach anxiety it wasn't funny.

It might of been because it was at a high class club with no girls under HB9. Every girl there was the hottest girl I've ever seen. But this doesn't make sense to me, how can one whole month go by of pure confidence and make out sessions and then in 1 night it all goes to shit. Has this happened to anyone?

This got me thinking, maybe the past month was just me getting by on my looks and this confidence spree I had, without much practical skill behind it.

I read lots on the subject of pickup and I know exactly what to do and say but I don't put it into action nearly as much as I would like, and when I do, right now it seems, its a toss up whether im going to be a pua or an afc that night. I need to start Sarging and get my calibration going so I can turn this knowledge I have into a practical skill.

What should I be doing to get my confidence back? Out of all my friends there's not 1 that will want to go purely sarging with me.

I wanna get really good at this, but I'm havin trouble figuring out how I am going to calibrate myself and get a true confidence back that I can carry forever.

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same happens to me bro.....

I got all confident when I started reading about PUA and was so much excited to try this.

I used PUA in my all situations with girls, it was a high at that time.....

but i got a lil busy with things for the last couple of months and lost touch with PUA, had no time to read and actively practice and all.....then one day as I got free from stuff tried to approach a girl.

the whole situation trashed in a sec coz i acted like complete AFC, an underconfident needy slug and that girl walked all over me !!

got extremely ashamed of the situation which i wudn't have if i wud have been confident enuf ...

this discouraged me futher !!

Since last couple of weeks I have again started to read and re-read this stuff, started to read "the game" and "mystery method" again, now i'm again gaining my confidence.

when i thought about all this situation I came to the conclusion that we've been AFCs our whole life, our whole puberty passed being an AFC, we didn't had much interaction with girls and just don't know how to respond in even normal social situations.....

I don't how much is this true for you but its been a reality for me.

so we have a huge task of changing ourselves, and recondition ourselves and believe me this is gonna take time and a tremendous amount of hard work and practice..... PUA is not about just learning some tricks and u will get the girl, by using these tricks though you may be able to attract a girl and get her chasing you for a while but as you get further in the relationship, a point comes where your real self comes out coz u haven't internalized all this stuff yet..... and then u do quick fixes !!!!!

So after 8 months in the pua scene and trying things failing, winning i have realised if you really wanna

- be a PUA and open the gates of a whole new exciting world for you
- not just wonder but become "the top gun" guy !!!!!!

you have to :-

1. completely change your way of thinking.
2. for this you might have to overcome you AFC mind and brainwash it.
3. surround yourself with people like you or associate with wannabe PUA's.
4. immerse yourself in PUA stuff
5. take out sometime everyday and meditate over this stuff and practice this stuff wherever you can.


its just like learning a new skill like....a new language or learning to play guitar...you have to practice practice practice....you will get frustrated....very frustrated....you will face resistance from yourself, friends, family....you will be laughed at...

but you have to do this.....a whole new life awaits you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

thanks for the post man, inspiring.

its good to know that this is a normal thing to be going through these random ups and downs. I just gotta get back on track and put it behind me.

Just really frustrates me when in my head I know exactly what to do and sometimes my body JUST WONT DO IT... but other times (when i have the confidence to back it up) everything works out great.

I've definitely took BIG strides from what I was before. Now that I think about it, I've been taking 2 big steps forward and 1 step back and I've only been in the game for a few months so far. I just gotta build up some momentum and keep going. Maybe 3 steps forward this time. I have to set manageable goals and work to achieve them. A new life awaits.

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