how do i stop this?

it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy. i work with females all day, customers to be exact. you could say i'm in sales. and a lot of these meetings are time-consuming and one-on-one.

problem is, it always starts with a keen awareness that "this is a female", a moment later "a good looking female", then inevitably some goddamn thing takes over, and i look at their lips, or even further south. i realize i've done it, and then i casually look at other things and make my way back to them (nonchalantly is the word) so as to appear like it's a normal part of scanning my environment.

what is it? genetics? i can be sitting in front of a client/customer, and think "don't look at her tits!" and one-and-a-half seconds later, BING, my eyes go down there!

advice on this?

any input?

not just about how to avoid it? or even if i should try to avoid it? and any other thoughts on STARING AT THE GOODIES!



it's like this:

it's a difficult thing to overcome, some would say it's just men being "pigs" but honestly since the day we're born we're having tits just thrown in our faces(figuratively speaking, unfortunately). Everywhere you look there's some kind of reference to tits, billboards, magazines, tv, etc. I had a similar problem, what I did was at first I would scan their body, make it look somewhat natural, look at eyes, lips, tits, stomach, legs, feet, then go straight back to eyes, and just force myself to look at the eyes, at the same time try and pay attention to what they have to say, but force yourself to look at the eyes and mouth, after a while it becomes normal to just look at the face and you'll stop getting the "hey buddy, my face is up here" reactions. It takes time, and focus, and is a pain in the ass.

so is it ok to look at the lips?

i always look at pretty women's lips. the problem is i find myself looking at their lips about 50% of the time and eyes the other 50% (when i can even keep my eyes above shoulder level).

goddammit, why is life so unfair?

also, what do women TRULY think about us looking at their lips, boobs, butts?

i don't really stare or anything, but i certainly scan the body, and i'm sure it's noticetable that i do that.

women love being checked out. you don't need to be crass, but you can build up some fun sexual tension by being flirty, smiling lots, and having fun. i don't know the particulars of your job but i was never ashamed to ask for a girls number at work (i worked sales). have fun, don't worry about it.

when she catchs you and asks "what are you looking at" respond "i'm looking at your tits!"

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it's ok to look at their eyes and their lips, it gives them the impression that you're actually paying attention to what they're saying, even if you aren't, I get props for it all the time