Hello everyone!
I got into PU a couple months ago and I like the progress that I'm seeing. Granted, i've only taken mere baby steps and I have a very long way to go but at least I can approach a stranger now. I also realize that I'm more than capable of attaining all of the benefits of PU but a few things are holding me back. I was hoping that some of you could offer me some advice.

The biggest reason why I'm not getting anywhere is that I'm not sarging enough and I need to change that but I'm having a hard time doing so. I really need some advice on good venues to go sarging. I know that bars and clubs are, without a doubt, the best places to go. However, I am 30 years old and have no friends to go out with me (I do have friends but they are all in LTR's and have no interest is doing this stuff with me). I just don't feel comfortable sarging alone in bars. Currently, I can only stay in set for about 5 minutes. Once I'm done talking to a set I feel stupid walking around by myself with no one to talk to. I also don't want to go to bars several nights a week. It's just not my personality. Additionally, it's really cold where I live right now and there is never many people out on weeknights. I have been to malls, bookstores, grocery store, and the library but there are hardly any targets at those venues as well.

So.... what I would like is to find some places to go sarging alone to improve my game. Once I become better at staying in set I would like to start going to bars more often. I realize that I'm never going to get anywhere unless I get into the field more often.

Do any of you have any advice as to where a 30 year old can go sarging alone and have plenty of targets? I live in a big city so I have all the typical resources. I've decideed that I'm going to sarge at at least one new venue every week until I find something that works.

Also, any ideas on how to expand my social circle. I would like to make some single friends to go out with. I'm currently looking for hobbies to add to my weekly schedule to help with this.

I really feel that if I can find a target rich venue where I can feel comfortable or if I can make myself feel more comfortable in a bar alone then there will be no looking back. I'm so ready to do this I just need to put the time in.

Thanks in advance.

Welcome fellow newbie!

Understand fully what you say about most friends of yours in commited relationships so not likely to want to sarge along too.

Places to go sarging for practice - bars and clubs are not the be all and end all, you should get more into daygame. Just approaching random HBs you see in town and make small talk. That in itself can be a small confidence booster. Besides, at the club that is when girls defences are more likely to be in action. Just try and be spontaneous.

As for a group of sargers well I am not sure but if any meetups can come from this forum that sounds promising.

thanks for your input. where do you work on daygame?

if i go to the mall, for example, i'll spend and hour or two there and only come across a couple adequate sets. i often feel like it's a waste of time. it seems like all of the girls there are either half of or twice my age.

I concur with that. Personally a big city like London is where I do find myself spoiled with HBs worth opening (be it people who live and work there or tourists or students etc).

The problem of girls being too young or old is more common in a small town I reckon. Weekends are a better time to practice. I just think, as is the case with me, keep practicing on almost every HB you see even if really more HB5 material so that the more you get used to it, when you encounter someone of HB10 quality who seems so far out of your league you will be better prepared at making a decent approach.

In small towns, especially somewhere "upmarket" in the London/Home Counties commuter belt, the best places to try are with employed girls in cafes or clothes stores from my experience.

I am also a 30 y/o. When I started in the game I went to places where there are women. Most PUAs look past these places and most men don't like them. Try Yoga studios, Dance schools [where they give dance classes], book clubs. This is where I practised. I just like women's company more than the company of men so started going to these places to meet them. Not hit on them, get to know them... Then I started slowly practising routines on them... Look and ye shall find... There are always places, just think outside the box

Stop avoiding fear and face it. Go to the clubs.

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