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Thanks here2play some interesting advice there, is it possible to do both ignore her for a bit then re-establish contact ect or would it be better to pick one senario are go with that
IMHO you are always best not coming down with a case of oneitis. Go out and live your life to it's fullest every day and pursue your own interests and do not get hung up on any one particular chick. Approach and interact and flirt with every single female you find attractive enough to catch your interest even if she is not a traditional beauty.
Always look sharp and clean and always be making eye contacting and start approaching people in less than 3 seconds. Expand your social circle and get out do fun things and invite other people to do those fun things with you.
Let this particular gal fall into HER place. If she see's you out having fun and having a life and she wants to be included then make her pay her dues and be your wingwoman.
If you are out living your life and having fun and you happen to bump into her by chance a few months down the road, then flirt her up outrageously and game her like any other chick. If she blows you off again, walk away. If she takes the bait, play her out.
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DO NOT TARGET HER AND DO NOT ADJUST YOUR LIFE OR MAKE DECISIONS ACCORDING TO HER. Live your own life doing what you want to do and let her fall into place if she happens to.
Be a shotgunner not a sniper. Live the fun life and hit on all women you find attractive. Most will pass you by but a few will take the bait. When one takes the bait, focus your game on her and play it out to it's natual conclusion whatever that point is. ignore the rest and move on.
Oneitis is a time and energy sucking cancer that eats away at your opportunities with chicks that want you.